I have ASD(diagnosed) but I'm very good at reading people?

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I hate it when I read a site about Asperger's Syndrome, and going through each trait and going, ''that's not me, nor that, I don't get like that, I never feel like that, I cannot relate to that, no I wasn't like that as a child....'' then I feel quite happy and start hoping that maybe I don't have Asperger's but was misdiagnosed and I really have something else. Then I come on to a thread like this and a list of Asperger's traits for girls gets shown and I'm like, ''oh....I have that, and that, and that, I get like that all the time....oh my God this list is exactly me, 19 out of 20 traits listed here are the traits I have...''

Then I get depressed.

Personally I believe aspies reading emotions in others is nothing more than a deeply necessary "survival" trait.

Between rejections (ranging from 1 to 10 in '"negative emotional strength") and bullying (a "10"?) beginning at a time before memory an aspie learns to associate the emotions in a person's face with their actions toward them. FOR EXAMPLE: If you have a mother and family that likes you and smiles a lot you can have an unconscious positive reaction toward smiling people. In the same way a series of bad or negative experiences will have a lasting affect, on aspies and NTs as well.

When I examine my arising negative thoughts about a person I've not met before, I generally see these negative thoughts are caused by a life of defensive negativity and not by reality and I also realize I may not need as many defenses as I felt I did when younger. This can be quite liberating.

Love life

denny