having trouble communicating Complex wants

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i dont even know if i said that correctly. I've always had trouble talking about what i want and i could never word it correctly, itll end up coming out wrong and the listener always gets confused, its so annoying!! Sometimes ill try to communicate something i saw on TV and only half of the description will come out. i can use these great descriptive words but what good is them if i cant even use a proper sentence? sometimes, a sentence will come out perfectly, but it doesn't express what i want and people misunderstand it. does anyone else do this and i really hope you understand what I'm trying to say.

I feel the same way. I have all these complex ideas in my head that I have no way of knowing how to properly communicate them to properly convey my ideas in their entirety. When I try, I'm almost always cut off by an NT before I'm complete in saying it anyway. I think it has to do with NT's thinking in a linear fashion, so that naturally one statement follows the next. In my aspie brain, I'm simultaneously parallel processing the contributions of multiple branches of an idea, that it takes a long-winded approach to get everything out, and I hope that the NT can string it together the same way my mind does. Often, it takes another aspie brain to understand the complex ideas in my head as close to as how they are represented in my mind.

Yes I have trouble expressing myself and exactly what I mean. It's frustrating.

All the time IRL verbally. Not so much when I type.

Relatedly, I've been thinking about how quiet I am IRL. I don't consider myself a quiet person much, as I don't feel shy, but when I think about it, compare myself to the few others I interact with on a regular basis, I am really quiet. I don't even talk to my husband all that much even though we seemingly interact more than most couples, and when I do I find we often have communication issues, where he doesn't understand what I'm trying to say. Often I feel like I've explained something well and he just doesn't understand, but equally as often I ramble off on a tangent and sometimes can't even express something as simple as, oh, the order I want to run errands in without messing it up somehow as I'll want to explain WHY I want to do x y and z in that order but I won't be able to fit that into a proper sentence or sentences.

A few months ago I was in a café writing and when it got busy I couldn't help but overhear people's conversations. Many of them are innane or boring, but for some reason it just really hit me then how articulate A LOT of people are. The depths of the conversations that they can have with someone else, and not just a good friend, a new friend or a business partner, so casually, the speed at which they interact, not having pauses in the conversation while they think, not starting and stopping a sentence ever, not reiterating a point at all but the other person still manages to understand what they said perfectly. And all this about important, complex ideas and tasks.