Do you have trouble getting over things

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I am the same as many of the contributors here. I simply cannot forgive or forget people who have 'wronged' me. Strangely, I often have more of a problem with affronts that were caused by careless or ignorant behaviour rather than deliberate acts. I guess I struggle more with the fact that people should know in this day and age how to treat people, rather than a sh*t just being sh*tty. I can be quite inventive in different ways of dealing with sh*ts to get even.

I must admit though, the person whose actions I cannot forgive on a routine basis is myself. I am far harder on myself than anybody else and remember mistakes and 'wrongs' from decades ago with absolute clarity and also the feelings of shame and embarrasment that went with them.

I also have a hard time forgiving people who have wronged me. I've been wronged by some of my peers in elementary school and high school. I have an extremely difficult time forgiving sexist or gender specific comments that people tell me or say about me. I've also dealt with ablelist characters as well. It's pretty hard when one of those people happens to be your dad. I also have a hard time forgiving my mum for jumping down my throat for going on about my special interests when I was a child without telling me about my autism. I also have a hard time forgiving myself for things that I've done in the past, especially what I said about my Grade 7 music teacher in front of the class.

I wish that I could count on staying over things when I get over them.

Depends entirely on what that thing is. If it's someone who used to make fun of me then I'll let it go in a fairly short amount of time, in fact I find myself getting over a lot of things since sticking to it serves me no purpose and comes across as petty.