Judging an NT

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Has anyone ever had the opportunity to judge an NT doing something weird, socially inappropriate and actually call the them out on it?

I did today and It feels glorious to actually be the judge and the jury as opposed to being the defendant.

Last edited by Mitrovah on 02 Jul 2014, 7:33 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Right now I'm imagining you hiding in the bushes, waiting for someone to pick their nose so you can jump out and yell "Gotcha!"
Made me lol.

It's hard to imagine wha kind of circumstance you are describing, but it doesn't sound good to me.

It sounds like the pleasure you got was in the feeling of payback and my instinct is that that is psychologically unhealthy. Unless this specific individual has somehow mocked you or reprimanded you for gaffes in the past, you are sort of scapegoating someone.

There are other issues. Are you sure you know the situation that resulted in what you observed? Is the person really NT? If it is unfair for others to judge you, is it somehow better for you to do it to them?

When I see people doing things I don't understand, I assume there is more behind the observed conduct than I know.

Last edited by Adamantium on 02 Jul 2014, 7:40 am, edited 1 time in total.

NT's always do socially inappropriate things. We shouldn't be judged primarily on our little faux pas, either. We have to adjust to the realities of the world, though--whether we are autistic, NT, or whatever.

I think "calling people out" when they're doing "socially inappropriate things" makes one look like a fool, and is probably more "socially inappropriate" than the action which you are "calling" the person on.

Just laugh about it in your mind.

It wasn't that really, it was one of my family members who for the most of my life was always criticizing and lecturing me about dressing appropriately and calling my non verbal behavior weird.

What happened is I said I like to eat chocolate while I was talking with some other family members, and right in front all of them he equated me with being a woman in a derogatory way. There was a awkward pause but I didn't say anything. When everyone left I tore him a new one and this was one of the the few times he couldn't re butt me in anyway. It felt really good and I don't feel bad at all for being critic instead of being criticized



If the mistake is little and insignificant, I agree, but when someone calls a person a bad name or belittles, humiliates or does something more egregious then they should be taken to task, such passive timidity in some cases almost gives licence for people to keep acting like jerks. it may not stop them from thinking like a jerk but at least they know there is the potential for being reprimanded. I don't see how one looks more like a fool he is right by the social standard or norm. You only look stupid if you make a big deal out of a small thing like picking your nose in public

Last edited by Mitrovah on 02 Jul 2014, 1:53 pm, edited 2 times in total.

I caught one acting like a fool the other day. I've ranted about it in The Haven, so it doesn't really need to be repeated.

Now I'm picturing myself doing this. He hee!

OP, I did not understand the precise meaning of your first post. Now that I do, yes, it does feel good when the person attempting to make a fool of me in a cruel way, is revealed as the fool. I do not consider that an unhealthy and vengeful feeling. It's nice when, on occassion, life is fair,