Back to a life of solitude.....

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The only time I can think of was a time he wanted to go to catch a movie I couldn't because I was in the middle of coding a webpage and was also tired he kinda got upset and went off on comparing our lives making false accusations that I "oversleep" hell I should be so lucky to actually get decent sleep I met up with him later that night and told him that one of the statements he's made was inaccurate I have insomnia which is a comorbidity of Autism he kinda shrugged it off as if I were bullshitting him (I wouldn't wish this f*****g disorder on anybody) So needless to say we ended up seeing a move he wanted to see an hour later but I bought the tickets because it was my fault that he didn't get to see one playing earlier in the day. Later that night he told me to contact him the next day around 4 or 5 pm to plan out what we were going to do needless to say I did I waited til a little after 5 he told me yea we'll meet up at a restaurant at 7pm then he called and said he's going to costco then 8pm came got a text that he's on his way home which at that point I was in the process of taking my father out to dinner....Since then he's been avoiding my calls and on Thursday he sent me a text of him at the restaurant I asked if he would mind if I joined nothing 30mins later another picture of the meal he was eating and 30 mins later a picture of the food in the bag.

Well just to give an update: I got a call back from the person and I asked him why the pictures of the restaurant why the avoidance he basically told me because he knew I liked that food and thought that I would like seeing the pictures which I told him I like the food but I don't care to see pictures of what I am missing out on which reply was oh I didn't know...I'm sorry

We also talked about him not returning phone calls/TM's
He did tell me that he has join a gym program which he want's to lose weight (he even took me to the gym to rule out any BS) I also brought up that I feel that he is giving me the cold shoulder he told me sometimes he gets so jammed up at work that he can not return calls or by the time he gets out it's too late for him to do anything however he said he'll try to be more receptive of my call(s)/TM's and in fact we've worked out a system during the week where I would send a TM in the afternoon to plan out the evening as so I'm not bugging him while he's at work.


I also asked him to be direct with me if he wanted to do things in the future I told him I can't do guess work I can't try to read into his mind it's got to be black and white yes or no
and that knowing that I do have Autism and from time to time I may say or do something that is seen as "weird" if he would like to stop hanging out just so that I can go forward with my life and he can do whatever he want's He basically said I've noticed you have some issues conveying what you want to say when we talk I'm OK with that I can still understand what your trying to say and that he enjoyed going to the movies and trying different restaurants with me.

So right now things are OK but I'm not going to take it for granted (I never take such things for granted)

So I feel that I owed it to you guys to let you in on what's going on

I'm glad that it seems to be working out. Thanks for letting us know.