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I wonder if I am the only one that does this... when someone comments on something odd my son is doing, or if I notice something he is doing when they make a generalized comment, I explain what we have and all...

I feel silly afterwards, but I don't know if people are actually commenting about it and then trying to cover up the comment immediately afterwards or not.

Tonight I took my daughter to urgent care because she had broken out in a rash, and my son was talking to one woman's daughter. After a few minutes, she commented "boy, we sure have a lot to talk about don't we?" and my son was sitting there, asking question after question and explaining everything in depth. The 3 year old girl was just looking at him, not saying much. So since my son was the only one talking, I automatically assumed the comment was about how much he was talking. So I explained... and shortly after I said anything, she acted kind of surprised and said "I wasn't meaning anything about him, I was just meaning..." and she fumbled for words after that. I didn't catch everything that was said, but I felt as if she was covering up her comment to begin with, meaning that it wasn't meant as an insult or something, which I never took it as. She commented on an observation, and I just responded with the facts. After that, she had nothing more to say to me, lol.

Am I the only one who does this when something is so openly commented about? I guess it isn't a bad thing, as people really should be more aware of what they say if they are not meaning anything by it, and they have no clue who is around... but it could be bad as well, because I think it cuts potential conversations short when they get weirded out by the "A word".

Whenever something like that happens to me I just try to do everything I can to act "normal". I dont want NTs knowing about my AS or they will think the wrong thing about me and make matters worse. I never admit it.

I also feel that way, I usually open my mouth just long enough to change feet!

lol, I wish I could. I never think about it until afterwards though, and by then, they're acting like I'm weird because of how I'm acting anyway, lol. I don't really know why I do it, possibly because one of my latest interests is kind of getting things out in the open so that more people understand about autism in general. This makes me less hesitant to mention it at all, and it weeds out the people who'd like to learn more about it or who really do want to get to know me vs. the people who just avoid me altogether 'cuz of it. It's kind of nice for that purpose, I guess-weeds them out really really quickly, lol. But when something happens, I immediately blurt it out. I do it a lot. Probably a combination of me being obsessed with it still and thinking about it all of the time and wanting to figure out ways to increase awareness drops down my guard and I instantly say what is on my mind, which is often that.

Sometimes I tell people my sons have AS.

We have been going to an autism/asperger's clinic every week for the last 3 months. We always go to a nearby cafe for a treat.

The waitress there is really nice and always seems happy to see us. One day I went by myself and she said, 'Where's the rest of the gang? I look forward to seeing them every week. Your kids are so awesome'

I thought this is a great opportunity to educate someone in a positive way about Asperger's. I told her we had been going to the nearby clinic - the kids have AS and that's why they're so clever and funny with the games they make up when we're eating in the cafe.

The funny thing is the waitress has a brother with AS and he is starting at the clinic soon.

Helen

I think this is a form of "compulsion".When I have certain "thoughts" they will run in circles in my head until I vocalize them.(It's part of my very annoying habit of interrupting).If I dont get the thought out,I feel a lot of anxiety.Once I get it out,I can listen to what they are saying again.I think if the thought is related to a current obsession(like AS has been for me),it's even harder not to talk about it.

I am the queen of "to much information",but at least I feel better when I get the words out of my head.

Same here.

But on the other hand, I hate it when people, especially strangers, or people I hardly know, say insulting things, or sarcastic things about me out loud or to some one they are with, and then when I point it out to them, or ask them what they meant by that or why they said it, they act like I'm imagining it or that they were not talking about me at all.

Although I'm NT My mother says that I am like a sink on water with the plug pulled out. Smelena is the same. When she was little she would start explaining things about herself as soon as we walked into a shop or where ever.

I think it is important to educate the public, Nobodyzdream. You're bound to get yourself into trouble sometimes but that's how it is. I am always ready to talk about depression, but I.\'m lucky because there is a big education campaign now on depression.

You are brave.

Robyn

Its best jsut to not think about it much after it happens. It isn't unusual to remark on a child being a chatterbox, especially if the child is showing a keen interest in something that they don't typically seen. My little sister is NT and by the time she was three she was known as the "little newspaper" - she loved to gossip about anything and everything, and she always mispronounced her favorite town asking if she could go to "News Castle." There was a joke she only wanted to go there to get news to share with others.


The other day I was speaking with my bf's dad and he asked me a question that I couldn't answer without mentioning the fact that I was dating his soon. I figured he probably knew that already, but last I asked my bf he hadn't told his parents. So I began by saying something like, "I know BF said he hasn't told you this, but I imagine you've guess we're in a romantic relationship. I think his dad thought I was nuts for thinking he might not know, he said something like, "well, yeAH" - we had slept in the same bed in his parents house for a week, by the end of the week were cuddling in front of his parents, his parents know we spend every weekend together, and I've gathered they are told everything about my life. I kind of felt like an idiot for not just assuming his parents had to know we were dating, but dwelling on that won't do me any good.