08 Apr 2008, 1:52 am
Also, bear in mind that as a relationship matures different hormones come into play - the initial euphoria wears off after a year or so, and gets replaced with the more long-term love hormones. Don't mistake this for the love wearing off or disappearing - it just changes to something that will work far better for you both in the long run. Are you sure this hasn't happened?
I don't think anyone could've possibly put it more eloquently- yes, exactly, that's how I feel. And the only reason I thought maybe she loved me more was:
1. SHE went after ME
2. like you said, I have a hard time grasping what she feels so deeply
But yes- perfectly put. I really thank you guys...you guys are helping me to understand myself better. I love being able to talk every night with fellow Aspies.
BTW gbollard, tell me- do you NOT agree that the Cybermen are the coolest Doctor Who villains ever created?
08 Apr 2008, 3:30 am
Yeah, when I'm being honest with myself, I really have no idea how my wife feels. I'm just relieved that she is considerably less nuts than previous women I've dated.
Just realise that you are going to need to do things that make no sense whatsoever in order to make her feel happy. Sometimes, something will upset her, and she will say she's fine, and she will be upset that you didn't make sure. Other times she will be upset IF you make sure. Prepare to lose that coin toss occassionally. Also "I don't want to talk about it" .
I am fortunate that my wife knew what she was getting into when she married me. There has been some adjustment, though, and I've learned a few things. For example: "Did you miss me?" -- the answer is "Yes." It is not "No, I really enjoyed having some time to myself." It is certainly not "Yes, I hate cooking for myself." (This last one I never had to be told not to say.)
Oh, yeah.... regarding feelings-- never argue with her about what they should be. "You should be happy that I told you the truth!" "That shouldn't make you upset!" "That mad you mad? That's stupid! Look at the facts...." "Honey, you don't really want to shoot me---"
Be prepared for some of those weird earth people things to actually have some effect on you. And I cannot put to fine a point on this, but never miss an opportunity to keep your mouth shut. Remember, living with you can't be easy for them all the time, either.
[quote="TheDoctor82]BTW gbollard, tell me- do you NOT agree that the Cybermen are the coolest Doctor Who villains ever created? [/quote]
Pfft. Inferior life forms.
08 Apr 2008, 6:50 pm
RE: Cybermen....
I prefer Daleks though Cybermen were very good in the old old days.
These days, they're mostly treated as robots but it was better in the old days when they were treated with sadness. They don't really want to take over the universe, they really just want to help everyone be like them, but can't see why people think they're inferior.
They touched on it in the new series, just not very well.
Theres a great one-pager short story out there that's well worth reading as it captures that sadness.
http://www.staggeringstories.net/drwhosilverangel.html
I also preferred the ORIGINAL look...
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