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Morgana
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16 Feb 2009, 5:50 pm

Stray-Ana wrote:
There are alot of times, even when I really want to do something and I am even eager to do it but somehow I can just end up doing nothingness - where even staring off at the wall takes over. Sometimes my mind has so much in it that I want to do - so many things racing that it just sort of burns it's self out before even getting started and it's back to wall or celling staring or something - it can be so frustrating.

For things I do not really want to do / haven't set my mind to - they are sh!t outta luck - I'm really trying to get better on that but it is so difficult.

Then there are times when I have started something that I just can't leave and keep doing it as if 'possessed' [sp?], like I have been chained to it and there is an invisible gun to my head and I am forced.

Ah yeah - it's the all or nothing thing that is me.


Everything you described here fits me to a T! Once I do start something, I have to finish it, come hell or high water. I´ve even had trouble cutting things off that I found were unhealthy for me, like certain short-term jobs. There just seems to be this compulsion to finish. Yeah, and I do the staring at the wall thing too....


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16 Feb 2009, 5:53 pm

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And don't be put off by the word "Störung". It doesn't just translate to 'disturbance' but also to 'disorder'. I'm Dutch, have always considered my autism to be a 'storing' or 'stoornis', without any negative implications to the word. The only word that does make me bristle is 'beperking' ('Behinderung', 'handicap') which would suggest that I have a ceiling I can't grow past. Which, I know I do not. :)


Thanks a lot for that clarification! Yeah, maybe I should check out the meeting. I just wish I could e-mail them, rather than having to call.


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16 Feb 2009, 7:44 pm

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Yes, I have trouble getting things started myself, which has especially been a thorn in my side for the last five years, though outside factors have also played a part in that. I find that the main reason I end up not getting things started - or, like Amicitia, not getting things finished that I have started - is a fear of failure.


While I'm sure a lot of people are afraid of failure, I think I actually have a fear of success. I'm so afraid that someday I'll get all the things I thought I wanted, and find out they don't really make me happy. :(



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16 Feb 2009, 8:48 pm

I also have problems getting things started. In school, I have 3 tests coming up this week, and I've already had 2 tests that I didn't study for and a paper that's due date is in the past that I never even started. I knew about all of these things, but I just can't bring myself to get any of these started. I think a lot of that does have to do with the lack of Executive Function (our inability to start and carry out tasks) that we aspies have. In my case, I think it also has to do with the fact that these things are no fun, unlike posting here or doing something you're really obsessed with. These things are a lot of work, and when you compound that with our Aspie problems, it just isn't easy.



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16 Feb 2009, 9:51 pm

I have trouble finis


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16 Feb 2009, 10:10 pm

I have HUGE problems starting social things. And as far as dating goes - I'm great when there is the possibility of a relationship, more than an actual relationship.

As far as starting other special or professional interest things - I'm really good at those, and I actually finish more often than not.

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16 Feb 2009, 11:49 pm

are you kidding me? i have a three page summary on a sociological article due tommorow and what i've typed so far consists of me rambling about switzerwend! and a bunch mispelled curse words. it's 11 at night. i already know everything about the article since i gave a speech on it last year in high school. i could write it and be done with it. okay, here i go...gah! somebody put microsoft word under spanish spell check. oh, wait that's french. that was me brother. it's telling me study should be studio and what not. must keep going...

i'm even watching some like it hot so that's not exactly helping.


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17 Feb 2009, 7:50 am

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