Logical vs. Emotional relationships

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Yeah..I guess it has lasted a while...7 years is my longest relationship thus far...though I was in one for 6 that ate up most of my teens and early 20's....If our poly-part has lasted longer than other people's poly parts...I have known some that have lasted quite a bit longer..I know one couple that has been poly since the beginning of their relationship...8-years..
Mine has lasted because my other partner and I have been friends for years...Before we went poly, I was pretty much at my wits end with Flakey...He would not stop sneaking around on me. I had completely lost all trust in him but due to the way we are bound by being business partners, it was almost impossible for me to leave...so going poly has allowed for us to maintain our relationship....and I guess emotionally it has gotten a bit better..though it has taken a while....
I adore my other partner, but sometimes he can really go off the deep end with his moods and meltdowns...so I am glad I have someone else who is generally more stable that I can talk to in Flakey.

One of the biggest worries for me with monogamy was always the risk of the other partner breaking the rules and being unfaithful. I found it really spooky to have everything invested in just one person while having no guarantee that they wouldn't cheat. Especially when going through a rough patch. But I think as people get older, the sexual temptations become less of a problem.....it's not righteousness, it's just that the relevent hormone levels get lower.

Yeah...it all seems kind of silly now..that such a big contract can be destroyed by something that when looked at in a certain way can be seen as kinda trivial..Seeing as so many people seem to be wired to be attracted to more than one person.....

But if one is wired to be hurt by infidelity....the hurt is very real...there is no negating that.

I am an emophobe [not a good formation, but it is late and my head is stuffed up] and at one point thought the emotion free relationship possible / desirable.

None of the possibilities proved possible, and what I have to say - no matter where you start out, if you are bonded there will be emotion. The glow of a good charcoal grill, not flame - though there can be flareup. But Even for the phobi emotiob willcreep in if there really IS a relationship.

What is meant by "pure" logic? Is it non-applied, or maybe applied only to non-defined variables?

Anyhow, the rational is to act according to what is believed to produce a preferable result. A preferable result is a result that is preferred. The preferred is what one prefers. What one prefers is determined by quasi-incalculable myriad factors.