I would like to try more sports, any help?

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Since I have come off anti-psychotic(unnecessary) medications many of my issues got better and I seem to feel different.
One difference is I am more into sports again, and enjoy playing a lot.
I would like to go more into it and maybe play in an amateur league but the issue is that I want to try more sports.
I play soccer(football here in UK) often and sometimes play other sports. I would like to try more team sports and other sports (skating, BMX etc)

One thing is I worry my mother doesn't want me to do them or feels overprotective, but she tells me she isn't (I wish NTs would just be honest...)
Another issue is when I talk to her about trying a sport she acts as if I need to play in a league/team, like that I have to trial, train and play for a particular sport JUST to try it!
I personally don't see why I would have to, as I want to try different sports before I make my mind up.

One thing I am struggling with is finding somewhere in my area that will let me try particular sports (meaning, try, and not going "into" anything)

Can anybody give me any advice here? The main help I need first is trying to explain how important this is to my mum and getting her to be 100% honest about everything.
Then how I would go about pursuing this, I feel clueless here, online research isn't helping and my family give a typical, laid back answer (its like they aren't bothered about anything...)

While I am doing research on this I plan on improving my diet, exercising more and building myself up

I've had some success with the order of:

trying some on my own,
one or two private lessons,
then practicing some more on my own.

For example, a tennis club probably has some instructors that will be happy to give you some private lessons even if you're not a member. Although these lessons might be like $40 or more (in U.S).

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With your Mom, maybe giving her something in writing stating that this is important to you, like a letter or like one paragraph. She might be aspie, too, and have the aspie trait of rabbit holing down an idea, so as soon as you mention a sport she thinks of all that's involved in setting up with a team and so on. So, you just need to be very matter-of-fact. Maybe something like 'At this point, I simply want to branch out and try different sports before "going into" something.' And you might need to say it a couple of times. And try and be patient, and I know that part is hard. Maybe write it and sit on it overnight and see if it feels right.

(or she may not be aspie. It's always kind of difficult and awkward to try and diagnose someone else, and should not be done more than tentatively)

And/or when she brings it up, just matter-of-factly repeat what your goal is. ' . . want to try and sample some sports before going into . . '

Basically look for the cheapest way to try something and do it that way. That's my short answer. IE, if you wanna play basketball, instead of trying out for a league, etc, just go buy a ball and go to a park and shoot around, and if someone else is at the park, play one on one, sorta like that.

Me personally, my big favorite sport thing I do right now is figure skating. I started just by paying 5 dollars and wearing the rental hockey skates at my rink. My rink had a deal for the gym membership for $27 a month, and public ice time was included, so I got a whole gym for $27 with a pool, weights, weight machines, cardio, basketball court, etc, and of course ice skating for $27 a month. That's a steal. However, my deal is completely exceptional. But still, you can get lucky and stuff.

But yeah, basically try to find the cheapest way to get the equipment/facility to try out a sport. I'd say actually don't worry about coaching unless it's something you can like hurt yourself easily doing. Basically, take the basketball example I gave you to it's logical conclusion with other things. YMCAs btw, I'd say are probably the best chain gyms, they pretty much got the biggest facilities out of any other gyms I've seen. The one in town here has like 5 racquet ball courts in it, 2 pools, 2 basketball courts, all kinds of stuff. So I'd say if you want a good starter gym, YMCA is where it's at, unless you got some kinda exceptional deal like my current gym.

For advice on how to start sports, just google stuff. Youtube too, lots of advice on there. But yeah, buy cheap used stuff for your starter gear for whatever sport you wanna try, and practice it the best you can without spending much money. When you find out if you even like the sport, then put some cash into coaching for it if you need it to get to the level you wanna go. Me, eventually, my skating coaching is gonna be $80 an hour, so unless you got money like that, most of the really simple beginner stuff, people around you can easily teach if you ask, or if you're doing it with others, they'll just go up to you and be like "sup bro, you should do it this way" and if that doesn't happen, there's pretty much a wealth of info about any sport and technique on youtube and more to read than you possibly can elsewhere online.

But, if you do in fact have the cash, do get coaching. Coaching too, one big thing with it and me, I'm pretty conscious of my limits, and either they push me too hard to do things I know I can't do, or they don't push me hard enough and more or less waste my time. Plus, they don't know my specific goals and sometimes have an agenda to push, ie, personal trainers at a gym, a gym might have just bought ____ equipment and is trying to get people to use that equipment, that sorta thing. In some ways, coaching, too, can be more "rent a friend" than anything, some people more want them for someone to talk about their day with or something, not get really really serious advice about stuff.

One sport I'll personally recommend if you want a team sport that'll be fairly fun, ice hockey. It's a tad expensive, but not too bad if you're an adult. I couldn't play as a kid, as the youth leagues were $1000, but an adult league is $400 for like....I think like 12 games, 16 if you make it to finals? I went into skating more with the intention of playing hockey, but alas was caught by the figure skating bug. But uh, I was in the free rentals for a month at my rink, then I got my own pair of used, but new condition hockey skates for $20 at Play it Again Sports, which is a chain of used sporting goods stores. If you play hockey, first just go get some time skating, until you're competent at skating, then go start playing hockey. Lots of people wanna play hockey and sign up for Tier 4 leagues, basically without knowing how to skate, so if you can skate, then you'll prolly have like 80% of the "issues" hockey will give you solved. As far as players, hockey's sorta like, a premier sport for like, misfit kinda people. Also, if you're fat, as long as you can skate, you're good, it's more like football in that regard. Before you join a league, if you get past learning to skate, most rinks usually got stick time or open hockey, stick time generally is pickup games, random players assemble into teams and play. But, open hockey is usually just only shooting and stickhandling practice. Last tip, if you get skates, unlace them all the way, and fit them that way, they should be very very snug. You prolly gotta buy like 2-3 sizes down, I wear size 10 shoes most of the time, but usually a 7 hockey skate.

But yeah, if you wanna try stuff, buy used/cheap gear, either from a used sporting goods store, or craigslist, and sorta figure out the cheapest possible way to try something with the least commitment, however it is for your specific sport. I know I can't like, give you tons of advice for every specific sport, but uh, if you want to know more about any sports on ice, PM me.

I don't know, hope that's helpful. That's just sorta my experiences, I'm pretty happy with it, but it more came from necessity, I didn't have money, and still wanted to do stuff, so I just did it, usually alone. Last thing to add, as an Aspie, you might like individual sports more, too, so keep that in mind. Have fun.

I think even though he was just making an example, 1000knives brought up a good starting point with basketball.

It is easy to get a ball and just mess around and see if you can figure out how to shoot it, but at the same time, if you're looking to play with other people it really is an ultimate team sport--for example, you don't really need to know how to shoot or dribble if you can pass and play defense.

You would need to study the game for the basics, but court vision and defense are pretty intuitive, and in my opinion that is more fun than being the guy who is counted on to score all the points.