Is homosexuality a form of autism/wiring?

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12 Oct 2011, 10:31 am

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No, homosexuality is not related to autism in any way, nor is it a "condition" one is born with. It is a normal and healthy attraction towards beautiful/intelligent/interesting/kind people who happen to be of the same gender.

Furthermore the word "homosexual" is only 150 years old, whereas men have been sleeping with men, and women with women, since the dawn of time (in fact the behavior is not limited to the human species).

I would assert that most humans are born at least slightly bisexual, and the assumption we must choose one or the other is purely a cultural construct.


I wouldn't totally agree. I don't think there is anything wrong or unhealthy about homosexuality, but I do feel most (but not all) people seem to have a strong preference of gender. Then there is a smaller minority who seem to be more fluid about their sexual orientation. There is also a small (relatively) group that have no sexual orientation (asexual). Just for the record I am asexual. And yes this has all been around in every culture throughout history, it's all pretty natural.



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12 Oct 2011, 10:32 am

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I don't think there is any connection between sexual orientation and autism. In fact the challenges that homosexual people have faced are a lot different than those faced with autism. I don't see a similarity between the two.

I am both and I am just waiting for the critics to start quoting bible verses that autism is an abomination and others to say its a choice-they do both affect each aspect of my life as it really narrows the field of prospective companions as NT people want and look for a perfect mate,friend,hook up,FWB and my autistic characteristics show and no one wants to even talk to me or get to know me even other gay aspies-they just seem to want perfection which I am not and the people in the autistic side of my world-many would be accepting and some an quite less accepting because they have it ingrained in them by others in their life that it is a choice and an abomination. I have no idea what I possibly did to be treated by both communities as a unwanted person.


Oh :(
Hopefully you can find some non-bigoted friends so you can have increased self-esteem. You can't change people like that.

I know that I can't change people like that but why can't they see that you can't change a person like me either-and they keep trying to


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12 Oct 2011, 10:39 am

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I don't know about homsexuality, but my asexuality is related to my autism.


I am sincerely curious. How do you feel they are related?
The reason I ask is that I have alexithymia (which correlates strongly with autism) and I am asexual. That is I have never felt sexual feelings towards another and there is nothing medically wrong with me. I don't know how to put it but that combination of alexithymia and asexuality sometimes makes me feel not quite human almost robotic.
Do you feel that way?



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12 Oct 2011, 10:45 am

jackbus01 wrote:
mushroo wrote:
No, homosexuality is not related to autism in any way, nor is it a "condition" one is born with. It is a normal and healthy attraction towards beautiful/intelligent/interesting/kind people who happen to be of the same gender.

Furthermore the word "homosexual" is only 150 years old, whereas men have been sleeping with men, and women with women, since the dawn of time (in fact the behavior is not limited to the human species).

I would assert that most humans are born at least slightly bisexual, and the assumption we must choose one or the other is purely a cultural construct.


I wouldn't totally agree. I don't think there is anything wrong or unhealthy about homosexuality, but I do feel most (but not all) people seem to have a strong preference of gender. Then there is a smaller minority who seem to be more fluid about their sexual orientation. There is also a small (relatively) group that have no sexual orientation (asexual). Just for the record I am asexual. And yes this has all been around in every culture throughout history, it's all pretty natural.


I agree with everything you just said. :)
I guess my point is that I believe (with absolutely no proof or evidence! it's just my opinion...) that everyone is born with the "seeds" of both homo- and heterosexuality. Whether or not these seeds develop into strong preferences as an adult depends on a lot of factors. Obviously I don't have all the answers though.



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12 Oct 2011, 10:54 am

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12 Oct 2011, 10:58 am

I think the idea that homosexuality or hetrosexuality are defined at birth is ridiculous. I would say there's a split between nature and nurture on this and most other things. I reckon Freud was on to something significant and believe most of who we are is learnt as we are growing up. Sexuality is not as black and white as people like to think. I reckon if people were honest with themselves they would agree that it is dynamic and is capable of changing during life.



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12 Oct 2011, 11:00 am

I believe that sexual orientation is hard-wired into the brain, at least to some extent--but I don't believe that sexual orientation is as simple as being either heterosexual or homosexual.

I don't think there is a biological connection between autism and sexuality.

I do think that there is a small similarity between mainstream society's ever-changing views on homosexuality and their ever-changing views about autism:

Homosexuality was considered a mental disorder for many years--it wasn't completely removed from the DSM until 1986;

Autism was considered to be a form of psychosis, included in the DSM as "childhood schizophrenia" (and widely presumed to be caused by neurosis or poor upbringing) until 1980.

The similarity I see is that both forms of natural human variation were automatically pathologized and grossly misunderstood.


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12 Oct 2011, 11:36 am

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I believe homosexuality is a lifestyle choice people make in their life based on their environment and childhood upbringing. It is not like people have a gun held to their head forcing them to be a homosexual. People all have free will to decide whether or not they want to be homosexual, bisexual or heterosexual. People can change their sexuality just like changing a pair of shoes or clothes.

Our sexuality is a lifestyle choice. Just like making the choice of what shirt, shoes to wear or what food to eat or what to drink. We all have choices to make in our lives.


See, I don't believe that for a second. I can't believe it. It doesn't make sense to me because I've always found myself attracted to females(even though I feel a lot of times they're crazy, and my life would be simpler if I wasn't attracted to them and therefore didn't have to deal with them. At one point in my life I almost considered swearing off females entirely, but I can't. I'm attracted to females. I'm not at all attracted to males. I can't look at a man and get turned on. I can watch a male and a female having sex and get turned on, but if that female isn't there, it doesn't work. I didn't wake up one day and decide "Hey, boobies and vaginas are cool/attractive today." It's just always been that way. I believe that your sexuality is determined by what you're attracted to.

I was "molested" at the age of 9 by a friend of my brother. I put the word molested in quotes because to me, molestation implies that it's unwanted and unpleasant, sort of like rape. How I feel about that situation is that my brother's friend taught me how to masturbate and that my penis was for more than urinating. I don't feel that what he did was right necessarily, but I don't really see it as this terrible thing he did to me either. Later on, but long before I ever had any shred of hope in finding a girlfriend, I met a friend, and at some point(don't even ask how this ever came up in conversation because I don't know) we discovered that the same thing happened to both of us earlier in life, and it was done by the exact same person. Anyway, we fooled around sexually sometimes, but it was never anything romantic in any way. I never found him or any other male attractive. The best way I can describe what went on is that it was like this: " Look, we're both not going to have any girlfriends any time soon, and we're both horny thanks to being teenagers full of hormones. You scratch my back, I scratch yours."

I'm not gay or bisexual. I'm only attracted to females. You can make a choice to perform homosexual acts, but that doesn't make you a homosexual. And I've heard of situations where one person gets sick of dealing with the opposite sex and says "screw guys/girls, I'm gonna be a lesbian/I'm gay now." I feel in situations like these, there are two possibilities. Either this person finally realized they really are gay/bisexual, or they simply do it out of frustration and aren't really gay/bisexual at all, but they feel their lives will be somehow made easier by acting that way.

I will never again engage in any sort of homosexual activity, but not because I think it's wrong or an abomination or whatever, but rather because it doesn't feel right for me(and I just love vagina too much), and because I'm simply not attracted to males. I could never kiss another man or lie in bed and hold one, cuddle with one. It would just feel too weird and awkward to me. But I have nothing against homosexuals whatsoever. If one just starts touching me unexpectedly for no reason, then I'd have a problem, but the same would go for any female who does the same(although I'm not sure I'd be upset about the female touching me if I'm not in a relationship at the time, and for some reason I haven't had the opportunity to find out).



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12 Oct 2011, 11:36 am

jackbus01 wrote:
MagicMeerkat wrote:
I don't know about homsexuality, but my asexuality is related to my autism.


I am sincerely curious. How do you feel they are related?
The reason I ask is that I have alexithymia (which correlates strongly with autism) and I am asexual. That is I have never felt sexual feelings towards another and there is nothing medically wrong with me. I don't know how to put it but that combination of alexithymia and asexuality sometimes makes me feel not quite human almost robotic.
Do you feel that way?


I'm asexual because I don't want to be tied down. Compromise is not a part of my voculabary. It IS my way or the highway. I lack empathy (although I wonder if that's from being abused as a child and having to learn how to catch oneself when one fell) and theory-of-mind is an alien concept to me which is probably why I can't master compromise. The only kids I was ever able to make friends with were kids who were total pushovers.


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12 Oct 2011, 11:46 am

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I believe homosexuality is a lifestyle choice people make in their life based on their environment and childhood upbringing. It is not like people have a gun held to their head forcing them to be a homosexual. People all have free will to decide whether or not they want to be homosexual, bisexual or heterosexual. People can change their sexuality just like changing a pair of shoes or clothes.

Our sexuality is a lifestyle choice. Just like making the choice of what shirt, shoes to wear or what food to eat or what to drink. We all have choices to make in our lives.


See, I don't believe that for a second.


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12 Oct 2011, 11:55 am

Thanks for sharing your story, DerStadtschutz... food for thought! :)



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12 Oct 2011, 12:14 pm

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DerStadtschutz wrote:
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I believe homosexuality is a lifestyle choice people make in their life based on their environment and childhood upbringing. It is not like people have a gun held to their head forcing them to be a homosexual. People all have free will to decide whether or not they want to be homosexual, bisexual or heterosexual. People can change their sexuality just like changing a pair of shoes or clothes.

Our sexuality is a lifestyle choice. Just like making the choice of what shirt, shoes to wear or what food to eat or what to drink. We all have choices to make in our lives.


See, I don't believe that for a second.


Don't waste your time, Dark Lord is a self-confessed troll.


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12 Oct 2011, 12:23 pm

I would say sexuality is more likely to be non polarised for aspies.. As generally logic driven people they may view sex as sex and not apply social expectations and emotives.

To be honest the only thing stopping homosexual acts from occurring is your social training. The physical and chemical sensations produced from the various sex acts will still feel as good. Alcohol and confinement often overcome these barriers .

The only real defining thing is attraction , are you attracted to the same or opposite sex more (or both!).

It is typical of society to box people up into neat categories , straight / gay etc.

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12 Oct 2011, 1:21 pm

They may both be caused by brain wiring & genetics. But homosexuality & autism are not linked. The sexuality gamut in the autistic pop. spans as much if not more than the NT pop. or at least we cluster in different spots in many cases. But their are plenty of straight, etc. aspies/auties.


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12 Oct 2011, 1:34 pm

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The reason I ask is that I have alexithymia (which correlates strongly with autism) and I am asexual. That is I have never felt sexual feelings towards another and there is nothing medically wrong with me. I don't know how to put it but that combination of alexithymia and asexuality sometimes makes me feel not quite human almost robotic.


I don't have alexithymia, but I am asexual and I don't feel certain emotions (enduring hatred, embarrassment, etc) and don't get emotional reactions from hearing instrumental music. I consider myself human, but I keep running into people who define humanity by feelings I don't have, which really upsets me.

This one study I found showed that asexuality and bisexuality are both correlated with autism, but homosexuality isn't. I've posted it before on this study, but I could dig it up again if you'd like.

Incidentally, I have a theory about sexual orientation. No idea if it's true or not, but it would explain some things. My theory is:

How hardwired your sexuality is varies from person to person. Some people are pretty much born with whatever sexual orientation they have, gay, straight, bisexual, asexual or whatever, and pretty much nothing in their upbringing could change that. Other people, they may have a hardwired tendency but various experiences can shape their sexuality and cause it to shift.

This would explain:

* the failure of 'conversion attempts' on gays and others with atypical sexuality - chances are most people with a mutable sexuality will have the majority sexuality because that's what is socialized, unless they have a very unusual upbringing

* societal differences in the expression of various sexualities, such as pederasty in Ancient Greece - if most people have mutable sexuality, then individual societies may have different kinds of sexuality without any genetic differences

* Rule 34 sexualities - there is no way being sexually attracted to Pikachu (for example) is hardwired, because prior to a couple decades ago we didn't have Pikachu, but if you have a mutable sexuality you may be able to become sexually attracted to almost anything given the right conditions

Any thoughts on that theory? (Note: I'm not saying anything about the goodness or badness of one's sexuality based on whether it's hardwired or mutable. I think there are good and bad forms of both.)



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12 Oct 2011, 2:14 pm

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Homosexuality is not a form of autism. It is neither a disease or an illness. I do not believe people are born homosexual.

I believe homosexuality is a lifestyle choice people make in their life based on their environment and childhood upbringing. It is not like people have a gun held to their head forcing them to be a homosexual. People all have free will to decide whether or not they want to be homosexual, bisexual or heterosexual. People can change their sexuality just like changing a pair of shoes or clothes.

Our sexuality is a lifestyle choice. Just like making the choice of what shirt, shoes to wear or what food to eat or what to drink. We all have choices to make in our lives.


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You are, of course, free to believe anything that you want to believe. Billions of people believe things that are patently untrue.

The empirical evidence is solidly against you--repeated physiological and psychological studies in peer reviewed journals have demonstrated a variety of empirical, measurable differences between people with different sexual orientations. From the anatomical structure of the hippocampus to sexual response to visual and aural stimuli, gay people are demonstrably different from straight people. (And bisexual people are different from gay people).

Were sexual orientation a question of deliberate choice, then there would be no observable anatomical difference, nor an observable difference in sexual response.

Making no assumptions about your sexual orientation, I presume, nonetheless, that you are attracted to some members of the sex(es) that attract you, and not to others. Do you make a choice to be attracted to some features and not to others? Does a young, straight man decide one day that he is going to be a "breast man" while another chooses to be a "leg man?"

Are you capable of deciding to be attracted to the gender that you are not currently attracted to? If you are straight, can you suddenly decide to be gay?

But by all means, carry on in your beliefs--you are free to hold them, regardless of what the evidence might tell you.


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