What would your ideal partner be like?

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I'm specifically putting this thread in this sub-forum because your partner could be of any gender or sexuality you desire.

For me, I'm asexual, but I'm more interested in guys romantically (albeit non-sexually). My ideal guy would probably be like the guy I had a SERIOUS crush on for the longest time. That guy is a varsity football player at my school, is 6'5", is VERY muscular (you should seriously see him flex his biceps), and is super smart (gets straight A's most of the time in the one class I have with him this year). But I'm just fantasizing, and I'm pretty sure a dozen other girls have a crush on my dear Nick (that's his first name).

Who would your ideal partner be?

Ace as well. Mine doesn't exist as far as I know. However, if it does, I'd prefer a girl or guy who is very similar to me (in my case opposites don't attract).

Someone who wants to do something new every day and is highly explorative, but at the same time knows how to get deeply involved with something else. Someone who doesn't lie to themselves about the way reality and society are, someone who tries to improve their situation using reality rather than live the way "everyone else" does it.

I want it to be a strong attachment that doesn't rely on legal documents but on our bond with each other. I'd want sex only for children. I also would want them to take care of themselves, and me take care of myself, so that we have independence from each other when needed.

Other people want relationships for two things. Sex and popularity. I just don't have any interest in either of those. I don't care what the "collective" thinks about how "cute" of a couple we would be. It matters no less if a rock thought the same.

To this effect, I'd like us to be outside of mainstream society so we can be with each other free from the constant demand to meet some expectation. In today's society, there's hundreds of people looking and caring about everyone else's business all the time.

It's only a dream but part of me sees a faint possibility in the real "relationship" before all this shallow fake stuff came along.

Someone who is also asexual, either perfectly androgynous or female but not too feminine or masculine, loves cats as well as animals in general, has a great imagination, shares my love for fantasy, doesn't think like an adult, wont judge me, understands me for who I am and how I think, doesn't want children (biologically or otherwise), doesn't smoke or drink, is areligious but not necessarily atheistic, open minded, someone who genuinely loves me and I love equally back, and someone who wants to spend the rest of their life together with me.

Not like a porn actress actually, even though those are the ones I like to look at online haha.

Someone who is pretty but pretty like Taylor Swift. Interested in my specialist interests enough to talk to me about it but not obsessed like me, I wouldn't want her getting in the way of my friends. Someone as kind as my mother and my ex girlfriend. But not silly like them, I can't stand silly people. Someone who takes care of me in a femme way and lets me take care of her in a butch way. In this 'ideal world' I'd have a paying job and be able to look after her. Someone intelligent and creative. Someone who doesn't care that I'm really short.

I should probably just come out in a writing workshop or something and I'd find someone. But I have a long term friend who's bi and she isn't flirting with me that way so maybe not.

Putting down an ideal girlfriend when I can't get a girlfriend feels selfish.

My basic minimum is: I'd be attracted to her and she'd be a decent human being who desired me back.

Brace yourselves for one dramatically in-depth overview of what I'm looking for in a partner that I just finished writing, which could easily seem like just a load of self-indulgent fantasizing. Here it goes...

Gender: Even though I'm pansexual, I'd be more eager to find another male for a committed relationship, with a bit of an androgynous flair to them; not too far over on the masculine or feminine side. Though I certainly wouldn't mind an occasional crossdresser.

Age: Preferably a younger person; between 18 and my age, 22.

Height/Body Type: Anywhere below my own height (~171cm, or 6’7”). They should have a slim, smooth body, with a fairly round, cute butt. Can’t be chubby, or too broad and stocky.

Ethnicity: Preferably European/Caucasian, especially a Northern European background. But Latino, East Asian or maybe even Central Asian backgrounds are also a possibility.

Eyes: Not picky, but blue or green is a plus. Especially wearing glasses.

Hair: Not picky, as long as it's not too short or virtually absent, and only covers the head. Fairly long-ish hair, especially blonde, would be a plus.
I might be okay with very, very light facial hair, if it's just by the chin or along the jawline, but otherwise little to none on the face.

Hobbies: Sharing a love for anime (and not just Dragonball, Naruto, or One Piece) is quite important, as well as being at least familiar with games in the category of RPGs, visual novels, platformers, and the like. Being artistic, having a passion for drawing, animation and CGI, even reading, maybe writing in the genres of fiction like fantasy, sci-fi, supernatural, or just having an imagination would be a huge plus, as well as being interested in philosophy, history or other subjects in the humanities.

Religion: I'd appreciate them having some affinity with alternative religions or spirituality, although just being plain non-religious but open-minded also works for me. They just can't be someone who uncritically believes in large-scale, organized religion.

Personality: To put it in a nutshell, I'd be most interested in someone with an INFP personality type (although some variations between Sensing/Intuition or Feeling/Thinking could also work. I myself am INTP). I'd like them to be the sort of person who focuses on cultivating close friendships instead of being popular. But if they're still a bit more extroverted than me, then encouraging me to be open, maybe by at least going out of their way to introduce me to their other friends and include me with them would make me quite happy. I'd appreciate them being keen to give affection, and enjoy getting touchy; cuddling, kissing, especially having sex and just being lewd in general, with a playful, mischievous side of them to go along with it. It would entertain me if they were a bit quirky and unconventional, and willing to speak their mind about controversial topics, just without trying to be overly contrarian or opinionated too much of the time. I'd appreciate them being open about how they feel, and trusting me to help cheer them up when they're in low spirits, with them also being interested in knowing how I feel, as long as they're not unstable to the point where I don't seem to make much of a difference to them.

Drugs: I don’t mind if they’ve experimented before, as long as they’re clean for the most part nowadays (smoking cigarettes or taking hard drugs is a big no-no). But some interest in psychedelics would be very welcome.

Diet: It's not a must, but being a vegetarian (or at least pescetarian) is a plus. If not, I'd appreciate them being willing to try it out.

Music: An appreciation for rock, metal, psytrance, gothic, industrial or classical music, or at least some curiosity about my own tastes, would be a big plus.
As long as they don't listen to any of those low-grade types of mainstream music (particularly such stuff like Beyonce, Nicki Minaj, or any really shallow brands of rap music, etc), I otherwise don’t mind what they listen to.

Children: I'd be open to the idea of us raising kids some time in the future, provided we've been together a while, and are ready for that responsibility.

While in this part of the forums, and as worrying what this might come across as. Not like it is a must, but a woman with short hair, some strong eyebrows, and a chest on the smaller side to maybe even not evident. I hear that these are not usually things seemed attractive in women, where I hear people complain in something where a woman character cuts her hair in something, yet they are all are very attractive to me. But those are all superficial things, the more important parts would be being a kind person, being at least tolerant of my geeky hobbies but preferably having their own, and be able to play a game with. And is going to have to not be too "pure" as to see adult entertainment as cheating.

And I don't want some weird expectations of being manly, as I won't fit in with all the men who do manual labor and talk about bloke things. And I will cry during the LEGO movie.

Someone asexual it's funny most people find asian and white women the most attractive.

Unfortunately I meet neither criteria. I personally consider myself attractive but I dont meet the American beauty standards. I am Rihannas complexion I am of mixed race. I'm just looking for anyone male or female who is asexual and loves anime and doesnt care that I'm brown skin

My wife is black, by the way. I have nothing against "people of color."

Too hard to pin an "ideal" woman as I've been with my fair share.

I'm just going to use the generally youngish, pretty, thin-waisted and "buxom". Other characteristics, well, I'm open.

If I have one that exists...
It may not matter which gender, which orientation, which desire, which aspiration... Where this person is from, what background or affiliation, or even appearance.
All I do know, this person isn't 'fixed' in all aspects and will change certain traits overtime. Because we will both grow, and we will break each others cycles.

Though I'd prefer one a bit closer to my age.

It would be this person and I have this understanding between ourselves that's one certain thing.
Even to a point of leaving one another, there's always an understanding and understands how to get through it without some awkward stuff when meeting again -- like an emotionally mature adult would.

Someone who can understand this:
We're serious to the relationship and be loyal to one another, but not the kind of serious that would suffocate one another and claim one another.
We won't be jealous towards one another, but we'd be honest and open about it.
We accept one another, but not to become an enabler of each other's flaw.
We'll treat life like a game, but we also respect it.

If this is mostly contradiction or purely conceptual to you, then you're not who I might be looking for.


But what human exists this way for me and what human would've drive me to do the same??


Sorry. While I can fit some physical and traits criteria or so...
My ideal type of partner isn't of typical love and relationship, even further from the usual romantic type. Not even the ace-ideal.

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A huggable guy who is compatible with an autistic gay. My ideal partner needs to be supportive, but also needs to make me feel useful. I don't want to be a burden. My partner ought not be a caregiver, but I'm generally more of a follower than a leader.

Physically I prefer chubby or slim, not into huge muscular guys for whatever reason.

Gender: should be male or close enough. If "non-binary", "agender", or "applesauceman", must, uhhh, not be a SJW stereotype I guess.

I can go on, about how he better not play music I don't like or watch horror movies with jumpscares, but I'll leave it at what is specified.

I'm currently single and looking for love.

But, I would like a guy who is funny and can make me laugh, as I like to laugh and I have a twisted sense of humor at times.

I kinda prefer guys who are kinda geeky and nerdy.

Just an open minded guy, who can put up with me lol.

I guess now I would say what my ideal partner wouldn't be like. I don't like superficial people. I don't like judgmental people. I don't like bigoted people.

I don't ask for much, I just want to find love.

Warm, relaxed, straitforward, a little more outgoing than me.

Someone who has similar interests, such as an interest in video games or things relating to the medieval and renaissance periods. Also, someone who is interested in actual discussion about various topics, plus is good with kids and animals. Gender isn't a huge issue for me. I would prefer if they were properly affectionate, as I know some people aren't touchy-feely.

Very butch lesbian, prioritizes women and girls, ethical vegan, non-religious and not a theist, not into recreational drugs, high self-esteem, psychologically strong and independent, great critical thinking skills, open-minded, devoted to truth, not loud/talkative/overly expressive, not a white-privileged person, physically affectionate, not overly attached to any culture.