Guys, do you hug girls you don't fancy?

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For me touch is a big thing, mainly reserved for a partner or very very close friends.
It's confusing for me when a guy, who has aspergers, hugs me like 5 times when we meet. He is not a touchy-feely person.
Is it just me making a fuss about it?
Or does he really feel this close to me?

I tried to talk about this but the only problem is that he talk a lot. I mean A LOT. Sometimes I'm not able to say anything for 20 minutes. It's interesting what he talks about it just makes it difficult to ask questions that's why I'm trying to see how it is with other guys on here.

I hug everyone but I try to make it obvious when I'm closer to someone than others.

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Yes, but only if the situation calls for a hug. This includes long goodbyes and other special occasions, and also social situations where everyone hugs each other as a matter of course. I like hugs, but I often hesitate to give them. I may flinch a little if someone hugs me unexpectedly, but they just need to give me a second to adjust.

Red flags went off for me in your description, Wanderlust. I feel skeptical that this person has autism, or alternately that that condition has the biggest impact on the behavior you describe. Did he grow up in Italy, or in a very friendly church? I don't want to rush to judgment. I'm only reading a few words, written over the course of a fairly short time.

I only hug or touch romantic interests.
Never been one for hugging or touching, I do so for family on special occasions.

My male friends I had would force hug me. Was uncomfortable. I've seen coworkers hug each other's when one is sad or leaving permanently. I could never bring myself to do that. Though one female coworker who'd come up and talk sometimes hugged me before leaving permanently.

I guess it's just more comfortable for me with someone I like romantically.

My female friends and I hug sometimes.

Hugs are only for romantic interests or close family. I back off when others want to hug.

He probably digs you in some way.

I don't like to hug men at all, and only like to hug women I dig in some way.

There's a trainer in my gym who likes to hug all the pretty girls who are his trainees, with very nice bodies (only those - i wonder why even those need private sessions) and they giggle with him and like to touch him too, he even plays with their hairs sometimes.

I bet he's having sex with a lot of clients.

If the situation calls for it, yes. For instance, if I happen to see my former university buddies now (with me having changed school), of course I'll give them a hug at the end of the night. Doesn't even matter whether they're male or female. I'm comfortable hugging anyone as long as it's expected in a sense.

For me, a hug is just a hug. It does not convey love or sex at any level, just caring about the individual and empathy.