My main problem . . .

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Isn't that I can't speak with women effectively. I have perfected that skill, or at least to the level I care to. My main problem is that when interacting with the opposite sex with intimacy in mind, it drains me. My energy is sapped quickly. Sometimes I cut off connections with women because I do not want to experience that drain that takes a while to recover from.

Anyone else?

Er... how 'bout interacting with the opposite sex WITHOUT intimacy on your mind? (And by intimacy, you mean sex, right, not like closeness?)

I knew someone would say that. If I didn't have intimacy in mind, I wouldn't get intimacy.

Intimacy means intimacy. Closeness, affection, physical sport, sex, etc.

Yes, I sometimes desire sex. God have mercy on my soul.

I believe you, communication isn't the most complicated thing in the world, it's the fact that you want to do it exactly right. My take is to do it right for you, I mean there are some social mores to work with, but in the end any worthwhile partner wants someone a little different in an enjoyable way, if she can't enjoy you as you are, then you won't enjoy putting on the front for long. That takes us back to the "be yourself" mantra, it's ok to roll your eyes when you hear that phrase, it's a little cliche'

Still though, it's way better than flat out denying it.