Observer20 wrote:
I think its pretty foolish to fall for someone who you haven't even met in person. People can be whatever they want to be on the internet.
People can be nearly as deceitful in person. Granted not to the extent allowed via chatting online. I think the kind of people who would lie in a bar saying they are a doctor are the kind of people who would do it online. Personally, I find it much more comfortable to be more myself online. It just feels like there is less to lose.
The problem with the whole "e" thing is you really cant fully grasp a connection and "chemistry" online.
But I dont see it as a bad thing to start off down that road. It's just another means to the end, if the end is a meaningful relationship.
How many people developed crushes on some girl or guy in school without knowing them? Just cause you sat a few rows behind them in math class? or they were a cheerleader or captain of the basketball team? You developed those crushes without knowing or talking to that person. Well, an 'e' crush is similar, you develop a crush on someone through getting to know them, but without meeting them. Two sides of the same coin.
And you can make the arguement that those kinds of crushes are silly, but how many of the people who are in long successful marriages got into their relationship before developing a crush on one-another? I think you'd be hard pressed to find many people (outside the arranged marriages) that didnt.
Tons of relationships start out with crushes, developing feelings for one another based simply on meeting each other. And you take it to the next step to see if that physical connection can work mentally. And again to the earlier point, in the "e" case, you see if that mental connection can work as a physical one. Of course that is with the understanding that the "e" relationship is not purely an "e" relationship. That I think is useless, and posted about it a few weeks ago. You really have to meet, the "e" part is just another method of meeting. Like I said before, you can meet someone online, just the same as you would meet someone in a bar, but you wouldnt only continue that relationship online just as you wouldnt only have a relationship with someone in the same bar you met.
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