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kingtut3
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23 Nov 2009, 3:56 pm

There's a cliche in the movies that a guy and girl who are close friends fall in love. Does that happen in real life? It would make sense because they becoming close would cause feelings to form.



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23 Nov 2009, 4:00 pm

Absolutely. In fact, that's the ideal situation.


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23 Nov 2009, 4:22 pm

kingtut3 wrote:
There's a cliche in the movies that a guy and girl who are close friends fall in love. Does that happen in real life? It would make sense because they becoming close would cause feelings to form.


No.



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23 Nov 2009, 4:22 pm

From what I've seen, when it does happen, there were always feelings there, just one of the two people couldn't act on them (maybe the other person was in a relationship, or the other person was dating the first person's best friend). I don't think it just evolves out of plain friendship.

All of my relationships came from people I was attracted to (and who were attracted to me) from the first time we met.



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23 Nov 2009, 5:29 pm

billsmithglendale wrote:
From what I've seen, when it does happen, there were always feelings there, just one of the two people couldn't act on them (maybe the other person was in a relationship, or the other person was dating the first person's best friend). I don't think it just evolves out of plain friendship.

All of my relationships came from people I was attracted to (and who were attracted to me) from the first time we met.

I do know that attraction works differently for men and women. Women tend to fall in love by getting to know a person. That implies that it could happen without initial feelings.



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23 Nov 2009, 5:45 pm

yeah that happens a lot actually, but from my experience it's hardly ever mutual.


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23 Nov 2009, 6:09 pm

Women and men tend to be very different in this particular area.

Women can definitely fall in love with men that they are not initially attracted to. They can even fall in love with men they think they would never be attracted to. I've done this a few times...you get to know a guy, get to like a guy, then admire him...suddenly you can't remember why you ever thought he was unattractive. :)

Men typically don't fall in love with and/or become attracted to women they're not initially attracted to. I've heard that the difference is because men are more visually stimulated than women....but who knows why?

There's an old saying: Men learn to love the women they're attracted to; Women learn to be attracted to the men they love. It's not true all of the time, but it's a pretty good rule of thumb.