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Salonfilosoof
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22 Dec 2009, 3:02 am

kenisu3000 wrote:
Huhh, well, I have Asperger's and I know I can feel empathy. I've felt it before, more than once.


Just because you happen to feel the same thing as another person at the same time or just because you can correctly assess how another person is feeling, that doesn't make you empathic. Empathy is some sort of emotional instinct that we all lack. Unless when on empathogenic drugs (like MDMA) we can only imagine how it feels.



Spokane_Girl

22 Dec 2009, 5:35 am

Salonfilosoof wrote:
The problem with many women is that they're unable to translate their emotions into logic. The only option we have is trying to do it in their place while at the same time abandoning logic and giving them emotional support in our communication towards them. I'm still training my skills in that area but without training you'll never get there....




They can express their feelings.



Spokane_Girl

22 Dec 2009, 5:47 am

Okay this isn't just an aspie issue, even NT's and other ND's have this issue all because they expect their mates to read their minds.

My mom said the reason why so many relationships fail is because people don't tell their partner what they are doing wrong or what is bugging them and they wait till they can't take it and then they blow up.

I read a book called The Seven Dumbest Relationships Mistakes Smart People make and one of the dumbest mistakes are "Expecting your partner to read your mind." The doctor wrote in there that you have to tell people how you feel, what they are doing is bothering you, let them know what you want from them, etc.

The reason why people do this is because they think if you love them that much, you will know. To me that sounded so aspie. Hey even NT's and other ND's lack theory of mind when they act this way.



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22 Dec 2009, 5:50 am

Spokane_Girl wrote:
They can express their feelings.


Both of my last two girlfriends just couldn't when their emotions were very intense....