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Same here bud... I was walking along the beach front today and i couldn't stop thinking about her , she'd love this walk i'd think. Or just i miss her , it sucks because with all her problems i DID like her i liked the time we spent together. When i was away from her , something would plage on my mind and i wanted to run away and pretty much everyone agree's it was the best cause of action. Still doesn't take away the fact that if such and such wasn't happening i'd probably be in her arms.

What I can tell you is that if you hang out with losers you won't get the chance to meet other people who may be more interesting, and not because others see you with them, but just because as long as you stay with them you don't get to do other stuff. Once a guy came by to invite the group I used to hang out with to a party at his parents' place, he even brought one of his neighbors with him so that they would get a glimpse of the sort of girls that would be at the party. While I considered it a good chance to socialize, I don't drive and there were no buses to that part of the city (suburbs past the surrounding hills), so I needed someone to drive me there. Not a single one of these losers wanted to go... they all made up excuses. Before that, whenever that guy and his then fianceé (now wife) wanted to introduce them to any girls, they also refused... and whenever someone else gets a girlfriend, they start badmouthing him bahind his back, saying that it's a waste spending time and money with a GF... while they will go and spend money on a strip club or brothel and then complain they don't have any money (when I, for example, tell them to update their computer sound card or monitor, which would have costed them less). And their idea of spending saturday nights is staying at a rented place for their club watching TV news and complaining about politics until 2am... and they aren't even getting drunk, they barely go out for a few minutes to the restaurant next door to have half-portions of chinese food and then go back... come on, for that, I'd rather stay at home! The sad truth is: hanging out with losers you won't just be seen as one, you will actually BECOME one... it's not healthy in any way. Particularly because even if you attempt to get them to change their behavior, they won't want to, so in the end you'll need to just stop hanging out with them and go elsewhere if you don't want to be changed by them yourself and become one of them instead.

^^^I think hanging with losers could be better than having no one to hang with. I cut losers out of my life & I have almost no one to assimilate with now. I may of not liked hanging with em often but it was still better than nothing. Least the losers liked having me around

Well, maybe that's your opinion, but I'd rather stay at home reading a book, playing a game, or watching a DVD or cable, and that's when I don't get out by myself, walking down the streets, looking at what's new in the bookstores, electronics stores, going to the movies, eating something... I just ran across an old friend on the street last Saturday, and even though we only talked briefly, we had chatted on Facebook a few days earlier and had talked about doing something on a Saturday, now I'm going to send him a message to talk about that again. And speaking of that, I opened a Facebook account a while ago for the purpose of getting in touch with my old friends with whom I lost contact because of studies or work... there's going to be a school reunion later this year, for instance, and I've also contacted friends from the university... of course if you never had other friends to begin with, then you have a problem, but in my case, that group, even though they were around my age, turned out to not be what I was looking for, and it took me a while to realize it... everyone else who has a life has eventually left that group, too.

^ that some of the stuff that was sent to me today , i've not made any commitments... Do i miss her company? YES , do i think about her when i walk along the beach? YES. But i know what would happen if i was back with her a lack of trust regarding her drink. Is she playing the sympathy trip with me? she even asked me if i was just messing her about

She's still in denial, I think.

Could well be

I'll probably end up meeting her tomorrow night just because we are going to the same church

It get's worse!

I went for a day out and met her for a day out , no love involved just as friends because of her issues. She told me she maybe bipolar and multipersonality disorder , We had a great time though and left it as that , two days later she text's me about being on a run for charity in a field. Relay for life or something , sure enough i check it out and there is an event. She mentions to me that she will run for my grandad and those that have died for cancer. I said to her well done , i was proud. The next day she text's me that she is doing fine but it's hot.

Well here it gets weird , she texts my mum that she was raped in a tent at the event. Apparantly she was told by someone else but she doesn't remember it , now my first thought was alcohol!. Now i asked her how she was again , still the same response. I then mentioned that my mum told me what happened , and suddenly it's i'm sorry don't be angry. I said GO TO THE POLICE , but she responds i'll do the run first and then go to the police... wtf . She also says " i'm fine , will text you later ".

I asked her point blank , if you was raped you'd go to the police you wouldn't continue the run and you wouldn't say you was fine and i asked her did you drink?

Thank f**k i didn't get deeply involved with this woman

indeed.

Imagine if i slept with her , damn so who's the kid from?

I think the lesson is do NOT date anyone who has a drug or alcohol problem cuz lots of people on stuff do things they don't remember. Also most of the bipolar people I've known had major problems in their lives cuz of drugs

True!

And you wonder why I pay for sex...