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I disagree with you Loner...look around this board, it's full of AFCs (or Average Frustrated Chumps) who want the long term relationship and "connection" thing.

From one female aspie's percpective, unfortunately guys like Lonermutant often do get one over on aspie girls and preoccupy our time. When a guy is practiced at manipulation and the girl's personality is very transperant, it make for a perfect situation for the sociopathic types to take aadvantage of said girl.

I do believe that as many, if not more, female aspies have difficultiy meeting and sharing long term relationships. Almost all of my NT female friends seek that sort of meaningful realationship too. I think the challenge is greater for girls because we are often taken advantage of right from the get go, when we are very young and still very uninformed. As each negative experience takes us down a knotch and we turn further inward it becomes more and more challenging to find or except the right guy. Online dating can be quite intimidating for woman, esp if one realises how many sociopathic NTs or otherwise (such as in Lonermutant's case) are there on the self serving prowl for the convience of internet 'shopping' as it is.

Why don't more Aspie guys attend Meetups? There are always a larger percentage of girls who do. I think any girl is more likely to be open to meeting a guy on a Meetup than an internet dating site, at least it shows initiative.

Why do you assume most aspergers men are like you?

Why does aspergers even have anything to do with your argument? Its most likely completely unrelated.

Why can't you see he's plainly speaking the truth?

Laws are here to protect ourselves but in the secret of their heart, how many agree with Lonermutant?
Not only aspies or whatever but A LOT of people, all kinds of people.

Or else, there wouldn't be no porn at all, would it?

It bothers me that he's even throwing aspie in there. Its nothing to do with being aspie.

Only just noticed this thread. Here's my perspective on dating. Might help some of you, and deal with some pre-conceptions.

I'm female and I have a son who's been diagnosed with Aspergers recently. Dating since my divorce has been... difficult. (That pic by the way is me.) I'm quite social but my gosh it's difficult for me to get interested. You've got to have a brain and lots of people don't. (I suspect I have some Aspie traits too...)

To the guys around here - you have a huge advantage - your brain. Do something with that. I've been reading through this thread and mostly I'm seeing a defeatist attitude. Self-pity is about the least attractive thing in a man. I might be uncharacteristically resourceful (that's just been recognised by my son's dad, finally) but mostly I've grown to be resourceful because if I don't take care of things, nobody else will.

You also need to work on being the person that's worth loving. That means physical fitness, hygiene. Expose yourself to situations in which there's a chance of things happening. Get your mind in shape so that when you do meet a lovely person you're relaxed, and ready to step up and simply ask her a question.

All these things are just off the top of my head. Social pressures make it almost impossible to work these things out - just forget about them. Forget about asking people out, just make friends who can get to know you as you are, be unconventional, be yourself, be authentic, be someone I'd want to love.

I don't know. Is any of this making sense to anyone?