How big of drawbacks are these for female dates?

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I am in a rarity in society in that, nudity does not turn me on from either gender. Nor does watching two people have sex. At best I'm neutral, at worst I don't want to see it. Also breasts, I am not really turned on by breasts at all. If a girl flashed me, I might react from shock, but otherwise it would be meaningless to me. At first I thought that would be an advantage, which it is.....in fictional romance. Though research into real world romance has made me come to the opposite conclusion, that these things would be a turn off to prospective dates. To what extent though I can't ascertain.

So you're not perverse, that's not a bad thing. Some girls would prefer that you're not so focused on her boobs that you don't hear what she's saying. So long as you are open to doing stuff with her (once you get to that stage) it should be okay.

So your not attracted to the physical attributes of the female, yet you still welcome the occasional interaction with females? There's lots of ways people become attracted to each other and physical attraction alone doesn't really keep a relationship going.

Sounds like you're asexual. Find another asexual person to have a relationship with. Sexual attraction is a big part of romantic relationships, so it's likely to be a major problem if you try to romance someone who has sexual requirements that you can't really tap into.

Or you could just stick with being friends with people.

I was suspecting A-Sexual, But do you have something that DOES turn you on?

I don't really see this as a problem. Certainly not a reason to avoid dating if that's what you want to do.

You might not be attracted to generic sexuality, but may find an attraction to a specific person is a completely different thing. If a woman asked the same thing, it wouldn't be surprising, since many women are not interested in visual sexuality, or men's bodies. (Clearly some are, but not all.)

Relationships between people are about more than just sex, and lots of women have small breasts (although padded bras are common).

Oh goodness, I think I gave the very wrong impression about me. Sorry, messing up with my words is a bad habit of mine.

I'm attracted to the female form, and certain male forms. I also have a couple fetishes(namely bondage) just not to breasts or the NUDE female body. I'm not attracted to clothes themselves but I prefer the female form clothed if that makes any sense.

And some girls are very uncomfortable being nude in front of a man. It's a little disconcerting even in the context of a loving, healthy relationship (at least for some people). So not needing all the nudity may be an advantage with the right girl.

I don't get aroused by looking at naked bodies either, yawn.

While I'm sure it may pose a problem for some. I'm absolutely sure that you can find someone who wouldn't mind it.

Personally I get aroused from existing.

I don't see why it would be much of a problem in the early stages. If you had the usual male feelings about female flesh shows, you'd be expected to keep it to yourself anyway, apart from the occasional subtle hint that you like it. It might be more of a problem if you get serious, but probably not for most women. I only had one partner who was particularly into exposing herself to me......I loved it, but if I hadn't then I think we'd have just found something more mutual to share.

Strangely enough I also tend to feel negative when a new girlfriend starts showing off her sexy bits, though in my case it's not a lack of appreciation, it's just that when it's in public I hate the idea of other guys getting an eyeful, once the relationship has become very close (which usually means after it's been sexual for a few weeks). It doesn't bother me directly before that stage has been reached, but from experience I know that it's going to, so if I were into one-night stands there'd be no problem, but I look ahead and feel dismayed that if the relationship is going to work, I'm going to have to talk her out of exposing herself in public - experience suggests that usually ends in tears. It's rather different to your problem, but it shows that not all men have the standard reaction to the sight of female flesh.