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05 Oct 2010, 4:45 pm

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:( you all have such negative attitudes about it.
it only takes one person to accept you for who you are and you don't have to worry about anyone else then.


Then where the f**k is he? I'm guessing he's on the opposite end of the planet or killed himself already because I haven't found him. Trust me, girls like me do not find happiness. That's for the beautiful people.


Untrue! I'm not beautiful and I found a lovely guy. Eventually.
Giving up is never an option.
Saying that i've had a few drinks; in the sober light of day I may have a different opinion.


Look, I don't have that much longer until I'm confined into my family's house and therefore never going to have anything social until I get my license, car and money to move out. When I graduate in May, I suspect it'll take at least 5 years for me to accomplish all that. So 5 years of no interaction but with coworkers (they never want to talk to me because I'm the "weird fat one") and my family. I think I'd shoot myself. D:

Also, it's good to know that your optimism for my situation is only a by-product of alcohol. I'm sure when you sober up you'll find that I'm f***ing hopeless. I wish I had some vodka right now. :/


I didn't mean it like that! D':
I meant i'm not usually so optimistic.
And from all your posts you seem like a lovely person.
People who treat you in a bad way are missing out on you.


Thanks but I don't think they see it that way. Hell, I've had people set me up to try and get me fired just because they didn't like me. I ended up getting laid off by the new manager who forgot who I was. I'm a weird and fat girl with no talents to speak of, who people mistreat for their own amusement. They never loved me and I doubt that anyone else ever will. D:

And for those of you who don't like that I've been feeling emotional lately: f**k YOU. I'm not forcing you to read my posts. If you don't like what I have to say, scroll down. I'm tired of being attacked for how I feel.


:( if you ever want someone to rant to/talk to - i'd be willing to listen. :)
i know totally what it's like for everyone to hurt you. It sucks big time.



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05 Oct 2010, 4:50 pm

emlion wrote:
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emlion wrote:
Erisad wrote:
emlion wrote:
Erisad wrote:
emlion wrote:
:( you all have such negative attitudes about it.
it only takes one person to accept you for who you are and you don't have to worry about anyone else then.


Then where the f**k is he? I'm guessing he's on the opposite end of the planet or killed himself already because I haven't found him. Trust me, girls like me do not find happiness. That's for the beautiful people.


Untrue! I'm not beautiful and I found a lovely guy. Eventually.
Giving up is never an option.
Saying that i've had a few drinks; in the sober light of day I may have a different opinion.


Look, I don't have that much longer until I'm confined into my family's house and therefore never going to have anything social until I get my license, car and money to move out. When I graduate in May, I suspect it'll take at least 5 years for me to accomplish all that. So 5 years of no interaction but with coworkers (they never want to talk to me because I'm the "weird fat one") and my family. I think I'd shoot myself. D:

Also, it's good to know that your optimism for my situation is only a by-product of alcohol. I'm sure when you sober up you'll find that I'm f***ing hopeless. I wish I had some vodka right now. :/


I didn't mean it like that! D':
I meant i'm not usually so optimistic.
And from all your posts you seem like a lovely person.
People who treat you in a bad way are missing out on you.


Thanks but I don't think they see it that way. Hell, I've had people set me up to try and get me fired just because they didn't like me. I ended up getting laid off by the new manager who forgot who I was. I'm a weird and fat girl with no talents to speak of, who people mistreat for their own amusement. They never loved me and I doubt that anyone else ever will. D:

And for those of you who don't like that I've been feeling emotional lately: f**k YOU. I'm not forcing you to read my posts. If you don't like what I have to say, scroll down. I'm tired of being attacked for how I feel.


:( if you ever want someone to rant to/talk to - i'd be willing to listen. :)
i know totally what it's like for everyone to hurt you. It sucks big time.


Exactly. I've been hurt so much, I don't even know what it feels like to have someone actually love me. Even my mother hates me. My father ran off when I was a small child and rarely paid child support. Why is everyone in my life against me? I never feel safe, I can't open up to anyone in real life. So I keep everything bottled up for when I'm alone so I can cry for hours on end like I am now. :cry:



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05 Oct 2010, 4:53 pm

:( It's really sad.
It's hard to find people to rely on, i know.
Just remember you have friends here. - you're not totally alone.
I promise.



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05 Oct 2010, 5:01 pm

emlion wrote:
:( It's really sad.
It's hard to find people to rely on, i know.
Just remember you have friends here. - you're not totally alone.
I promise.


I do? I remember more people getting pissed/reply cynically/troll at me whenever I'd vent here. I'm supposed to be meeting people for dinner now but I don't wanna go. I'm still crying and I don't wanna deal with people. They'll all either ignore me or pester me on why I look so sad. Not that they really care, they just are nosy. >.<



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05 Oct 2010, 5:07 pm

^ Afaik the Haven is the forum for venting, in other threads it can be offtopic.

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I gather its the social ackwardness and different interests. IE i like video games instead of drinking/going to bars.
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I bolded the important part.

Judging is actually a good thing. It prevents people (sometimes) from getting into relationships with people they are incompatible with. You would be absolutely miserable if one of the girls who likes drinking and going to bars gave you a chance. What do you think she would want to do on a date? She would want to go to a bar and drink. And you would hate that and pray for the evening to be over. Her judgement that you shouldn't go out even once with her saves you from that very unpleasant evening with somebody you aren't compatible with.

Look for girls who share your interests. There are girls who like video games too. You are more likely to be compatible with one of them. One of them will look at you and judge that you will not be a man who will drag her to a bar but instead will play videogames with her. And that will be a good judgement.

Indeed. Not being mainstream means you have to look harder / in different places to find people like you. It doesn't mean we don't exist.



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05 Oct 2010, 5:11 pm

Erisad wrote:
emlion wrote:
:( It's really sad.
It's hard to find people to rely on, i know.
Just remember you have friends here. - you're not totally alone.
I promise.


I do? I remember more people getting pissed/reply cynically/troll at me whenever I'd vent here. I'm supposed to be meeting people for dinner now but I don't wanna go. I'm still crying and I don't wanna deal with people. They'll all either ignore me or pester me on why I look so sad. Not that they really care, they just are nosy. >.<


Well, i can't speak for other people obviously, but i'll always listen and not get pissed or troll you.
I think it's healthy for people to vent.
Ahh I hate meeting people for dinner, i'm much happier getting a takeaway and watching a movie or something.
Dinners always require so much of a person.



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05 Oct 2010, 5:14 pm

emlion wrote:
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:( It's really sad.
It's hard to find people to rely on, i know.
Just remember you have friends here. - you're not totally alone.
I promise.


I do? I remember more people getting pissed/reply cynically/troll at me whenever I'd vent here. I'm supposed to be meeting people for dinner now but I don't wanna go. I'm still crying and I don't wanna deal with people. They'll all either ignore me or pester me on why I look so sad. Not that they really care, they just are nosy. >.<


Well, i can't speak for other people obviously, but i'll always listen and not get pissed or troll you.
I think it's healthy for people to vent.
Ahh I hate meeting people for dinner, i'm much happier getting a takeaway and watching a movie or something.
Dinners always require so much of a person.


Since I don't have anyone to vent to in real life when I need to, I vent here. Apparently, that offends some people. :/

I was due to be at the dining hall at 6 but I really don't want to go. It's so loud there and I already have a headache. The only reason I want to go is that a friend of mine that graduated last year is on campus tonight and is going to be there. I don't want him to be left alone with a table of annoying freshmen that he doesn't know. >.<



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05 Oct 2010, 5:24 pm

I make judgments about people based on facts and personal experience, and I'm rarely wrong. It's not what other people think I should or shouldn't do that matters, it's what I know works for me.

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IE i like video games instead of drinking/going to bars.


Believe it or not, this sentence (and the context it's written in) tells me all I need to know about you.



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05 Oct 2010, 8:25 pm

Erisad wrote:
And for those of you who don't like that I've been feeling emotional lately: f**k YOU. I'm not forcing you to read my posts. If you don't like what I have to say, scroll down. I'm tired of being attacked for how I feel.


Me & other users here are tired of you derailing topics with you narcissistic poor me cr@p. The rezone you are getting attacked here is because you are cursing people out who read your post. If you don't like my post; you don't have to read em either



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05 Oct 2010, 8:45 pm

nick007 wrote:
Erisad wrote:
And for those of you who don't like that I've been feeling emotional lately: f**k YOU. I'm not forcing you to read my posts. If you don't like what I have to say, scroll down. I'm tired of being attacked for how I feel.


Me & other users here are tired of you derailing topics with you narcissistic poor me cr@p. The rezone you are getting attacked here is because you are cursing people out who read your post. If you don't like my post; you don't have to read em either



Since you're so concerned about derailing topics, I'll PM you my response since you seem to have it out for me. :/


emlion - This is what I was talking about. I can't say anything on WP without someone telling me to STFU. Clearly I'm not wanted here or anywhere else. :(



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05 Oct 2010, 8:48 pm

Erisad wrote:
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Erisad wrote:
And for those of you who don't like that I've been feeling emotional lately: f**k YOU. I'm not forcing you to read my posts. If you don't like what I have to say, scroll down. I'm tired of being attacked for how I feel.


Me & other users here are tired of you derailing topics with you narcissistic poor me cr@p. The rezone you are getting attacked here is because you are cursing people out who read your post. If you don't like my post; you don't have to read em either



Since you're so concerned about derailing topics, I'll PM you my response since you seem to have it out for me. :/


emlion - This is what I was talking about. I can't say anything on WP without someone telling me to STFU. Clearly I'm not wanted here or anywhere else. :(


Fallow her other post & you'll see exactly what I'm talking about here. She's accused lots of people here of attacking her. I never had a problem with another member here



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05 Oct 2010, 8:50 pm

nick007 wrote:
Erisad wrote:
nick007 wrote:
Erisad wrote:
And for those of you who don't like that I've been feeling emotional lately: f**k YOU. I'm not forcing you to read my posts. If you don't like what I have to say, scroll down. I'm tired of being attacked for how I feel.


Me & other users here are tired of you derailing topics with you narcissistic poor me cr@p. The rezone you are getting attacked here is because you are cursing people out who read your post. If you don't like my post; you don't have to read em either



Since you're so concerned about derailing topics, I'll PM you my response since you seem to have it out for me. :/


emlion - This is what I was talking about. I can't say anything on WP without someone telling me to STFU. Clearly I'm not wanted here or anywhere else. :(


Fallow her other post & you'll see exactly what I'm talking about here. She's accused lots of people here of attacking her. I never had a problem with another member here


I apologized for the stuff I said in the other thread multiple times. Can't you let it go? D:



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05 Oct 2010, 8:54 pm

Erisad wrote:
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Erisad wrote:
nick007 wrote:
Erisad wrote:
And for those of you who don't like that I've been feeling emotional lately: f**k YOU. I'm not forcing you to read my posts. If you don't like what I have to say, scroll down. I'm tired of being attacked for how I feel.


Me & other users here are tired of you derailing topics with you narcissistic poor me cr@p. The rezone you are getting attacked here is because you are cursing people out who read your post. If you don't like my post; you don't have to read em either



Since you're so concerned about derailing topics, I'll PM you my response since you seem to have it out for me. :/


emlion - This is what I was talking about. I can't say anything on WP without someone telling me to STFU. Clearly I'm not wanted here or anywhere else. :(


Fallow her other post & you'll see exactly what I'm talking about here. She's accused lots of people here of attacking her. I never had a problem with another member here


I apologized for the stuff I said in the other thread multiple times. Can't you let it go? D:


A fake apology is meaningless if you have no intention of trying to stop this never ending cycle



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05 Oct 2010, 9:00 pm

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A fake apology is meaningless if you have no intention of trying to stop this never ending cycle


I love how we're judging each other in a thread about judging. Just saying, it's kind of funny to me. >.>



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05 Oct 2010, 9:02 pm

Erisad wrote:
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A fake apology is meaningless if you have no intention of trying to stop this never ending cycle


I love how we're judging each other in a thread about judging. Just saying, it's kind of funny to me. >.>


I judge people by how they act towards me. If a person acts like a toll; I'll call em a troll. Is judging individuals by their own actions unfair judging?