It sounds to me like a very logical way of putting it. A very Aspie trait if you have to ask me. From what I can gather Aspies use their logical thinking much more than NTs. For us NTs emotions often override the logical mind. Usually for NTs sex and affection are interconnected with each other and while it is not impossible to remain friends with your ex it does require some digestion of the break up and some moving on in that sense. The time required is different depending on how long and how deep was the relationship. The fact that you can so easily and so quickly reason yourself out of the relationship, tells me that you make up your mind about what seems to be best and do not have any longing for what the relationship was. I have no idea if you still have emotions for that person and just separate the emotions from the rest, or if emotions are just not "sticking" deeply enough to make an impact on you after it is over. I would never be able to look at a relationship like a business deal. To me the person I am with is so unique that I can never think of substituting him with anybody else. Of course as time goes by, you move on and you do fall in love again, but at the time of the relationship and for a time after the end of it I feel I will never find anybody that I can love so much. I wonder if these different ways of living a relationship impact on the way the other person feels. I wonder if your exes ever felt really unique if you can so easily substitute them with somebody else. This may be contributing to their heart break and to them needing even more time to heal. Just a thought.
27 Nov 2010, 7:24 pm
