My girlfriend thinks she might be pregnant?

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18 Jul 2011, 11:35 pm

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True, "One nasty female ... et cetera", but that "One Nasty Female" sure seems to get around a lot; nearly every man I know can narrate at least one similar story. Either it's just the one woman causing that much pain everywhere she goes, or for every man there is at least one woman to cause him intense grief and ruin his trust in other women.

Go ahead, ask your favorite man if he's ever been played for a chump by a woman that he loved and trusted (it isn't just men doing it to women, y'know...).

well... how many women have been raped or sexually assualted or sexually abused by men? or been taken in by unscrupulous PUA? every single woman i know has a story like that to tell, but it would be no excuse to blame and distrust all men. not all men are bad, and not all women are bad.

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19 Jul 2011, 12:57 am

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Ask any woman if she's ever been hurt by an untrustworthy man. Does the fact that many women have make all men bad and untrustworthy? If not, then why assume that stories about untrustworthy women make all women bad and untrustworthy?

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19 Jul 2011, 12:59 am

ChrispyBiscuits wrote:

Today my girlfriend, who is 16, told me that she thinks she may be pregnant, and that im the only one who could be the farther... Im also 16... this is really bad I feel so horrible I feel like im the worst thing that has ever happened to her! oh sh** sh**! :cry:

That tends to happen when you have unprotected sex without contraceptives.

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19 Jul 2011, 1:05 am

ChrispyBiscuits wrote:

She just texted me saying that she isnt pregnant and that we are over, so that brings this thread to a close...

Of course it doesn't.

But let this serve as a lesson. The number one purpose of sex is reproduction. No matter how careful you are when you have sex, there is always a chance of conception.

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19 Jul 2011, 7:18 am

It feels like its been weeks now, im trying to ignore her texts but its becoming harder to not reply, im unsure what I should do, part of me wants to go back to her, but I shouldn't.. I really want thing to be the way they used to, we were so happy together but now everything is f***ed up..

Outside of jacks town we both board at the same school, but I attend a different school during the day. The reason I do this is because my parents were moving out and they would only trust me staying at a boarding house, all my friends went to a public school, so I boarded at this private school and attended the public school during the day, its a better school anyways, and its free.

I could completely avoid her by moving out of the boarding house and into my sisters house who recently moved near my school, I could do it so easily but im unsure what I should do... I wish I knew exactly what is going through her head... :'( I dont want to leave her...

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19 Jul 2011, 8:38 am

Edited --- just read back a page, had not realised there had been an update explaining this 'Jack' individual.
In that case, I tend to agree that ignoring her texts is the best option.

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19 Jul 2011, 8:50 am

Graelwyn wrote:

Why are you ignoring her texts?
If you still like her, why are you not replying and attempting to fix this situation?
You will find situations in every relationship where you hit a problem, and maybe things seem like they have crashed down around you, but you have to learn to overcome these things by communicating.
If she is texting you, she obviously still cares, and wants to fix things, and to me it suggests that her original text, saying that you were over, was a 'heat of the moment' thing, done out of perhaps confusion or upset.

Maybe you should reply to her, and then you might find out why she said you were over, and why she reacted as she did (if she hasn't told you already), and there is no reason things cannot return to how they were, indeed, you might find sorting it out makes the relationship stronger than before.

shouldn't be his problem to "fix" imo

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19 Jul 2011, 8:56 am

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Graelwyn wrote:

shouldn't be his problem to "fix" imo

They should, imo, be trying to fix it together.
And since she texted him, she seemingly wishes to attempt to fix things between them, so to speak.
Since they are both responsible for having the pregnancy scare, since both engaged in sexual activity, then both are equally responsible for hitting that original issue. But that is merely my opinion on the matter.

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19 Jul 2011, 8:58 am

ChrispyBiscuits wrote:

Tough it out, man. You deserve better than some two-timing bint who will lay herself out for any man-jack with a smooth story and a few quid to burn.

If she really loved you, then you would still be her one-and-only. Instead, you are obviously her second choice - a convenient stand-in for whenever Jack is out of town.

You deserve better.

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19 Jul 2011, 9:00 am

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ChrispyBiscuits wrote:

this ^

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19 Jul 2011, 9:06 am

I made the error of not reading back a page, and missing the OPs last post.
I had not realised that she had been with another guy, in which case, I tend to agree that her texts should either be ignored entirely, or responded to with the simple statement that you do not wish to have further contact with her.

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19 Jul 2011, 9:13 am

I wish things were different...

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19 Jul 2011, 9:16 am

ChrispyBiscuits wrote:

I wish things were different...

Unfortunately your not the only one sir

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19 Jul 2011, 9:18 am

ChrispyBiscuits wrote:

I wish things were different...

There will be other girls who'll want you first.
Not just when some other guy isn't around.
Forget her.

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19 Jul 2011, 11:06 am

Fnord wrote:

ChrispyBiscuits wrote:

Much as I don't like Fnord's attitude toward women, I do agree with him here. I think the OP can do much better and find someone who isn't messing with him. I agree he should hang tough and continue not to communicate with her and focus on himself right now, and when the time is right he can form a better relationship with someone who is less into playing games.

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