Openness about dx and reciprocity

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So this girl I've been seeing for a little while now has a different dx which she's been open about right from the get-go. Seems only fair to be open about mine. Trouble is, she also has a rough family history which leads me to think she'd rather view me as a rock of stability and "normalcy"... Any thoughts on how to approach this situation? Is it ok to keep my issues to myself a while longer? If so, at what point would I have to tell her, and how? Thanks.

You have to reciprocate...

Otherwise, you are starting out on a false foundation if you withhold.

how does a diagnosis mean you cannot be a rock of stability ?.

I tend to see myself as more stable then most non diagnosed people around me. Having a diagnosis and being stable just goes to show how rock solid you are even with some issues affecting your life.

Last edited by TB on 03 Oct 2011, 2:09 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Being a rock of stability includes being totally okay with who you are, in my opinion. Also, any building of love must have a foundation of trust- thus total honesty in order to stand the test of time, and not crumble into rubble at your feet.

TELL.

Agreed. If she sees that you are ok with who you are despite your 'issues', she'll be more comfortable being ok with who she is despite hers. Plus she'll probably think you're pretty brave/cool for being that honest with her. I certainly would.

There is no right way to bring it up; see if there's a moment in a conversation where it seems related and or/appropriate, or just bluntly tell her.