[New!!] Come fellow WPers, let me show you some FB photos.

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^That's your experience.
I have been hearing continous random comments about how should I work on myself to look less nerdy/geeky... now I know how bad the geek image is protrayed in the media, the bad ideas people habe about geeks/nerds exceed the good ones, I am totally aware of it.
Yet my buddies are going extreme in their comment.

Just today someone told me "you should start working on getting rid of your glasses" (yet my glasses are borderless, very common, mainstream and un-geeky", I gave him a bad look saying "... and why is that??". He retreated by changing the subject.

Lol For some reason my buddies are more worried than me about the possibility of ending up single for good. Sometimea they tell along their advices things like "before it's too late", " you're no longer young", "not much time"... they're already counting my countdown, the horror lol.
But I think i know what's happening, they know I am 29, and they knew me long enough as single, so they think that my whole being(personality,looks, everything) is the problem(maybe they're right?) , and they're asking to change [i]that[i] (quasi-impossible).

I don't understand why you're listening to people that clearly have a problem with who you are. Am I missing something here?

^ Yes, you're missing something. I am not "listening" them but I am keep getting them , some of those people are colleagues whom I see them everyday.

Yes, I agree with what Moog has said. I would have said pretty much the same thing if I had replied before him.

I understand wondering why so many different people say the same thing. I've been through similar, only to realize it was a cultural belief/view and I was just going against the grain. I stopped caring a long time ago about this sort of thing.

That's not to say I have a high opinion of myself. I think everyone is insecure about something. Some just show it more than others.

The other I made one of them to shut up for good this friday, he was the most annoying one, a coworker. He's a guy who told me all the things above too.


He saw the lockscreen pic on my iphone, it is a disney-like picture, a drawing of a castle and things like that.

He was like "why putting this? it's like children, girls won't like this" lol - I couldn't stand this s**t anymore.

I was like "can you stop criticizing everything about myself? thanks" with a very mean dry tone. I made it so mean that it sounded almost like "f**k off you as*hole".

he gupled in surprise lol and he was like "i won't advice you in anything anymore!'

Good riddance.

I'll go with the people who posted here, and say that it would be a good idea to post pictures of yourself doing the things you enjoy. Whatever they are, don't be ashamed . If you are looking for girls with a quality mindset instead of a quantity one, there will we one who will like the things she sees, and she could be interested. If you post pictures of yourself partying, you'll get girls who like partying, and if you don't enjoy such things... I'd rather be alone than do something I don't like for the sake of being in a relationship.

The more pics with girls thing... that's usually a good thing though. As someone pointed out, they may be too ambiguous, are you friends, siblings, a couple? That ambiguity is good though, and as it was also pointed out, those photos will make it look like you're capable of hanging out with the other gender. Facebook is a lot about appareances though, a rather tiresome game that I stopped playing a while ago. I haven't uploaded any new photos for over a year, and I don't really see it as a dating platform anyway. Just a way to showcase yourself, or the best part of it. Oh and a rather good source of information, but Just watching is enough for that.

Why everyone is asking me to post my pics here? lol

well i guess whether this is "good advice" or not depends on what kind of people you want to attract. if you just want some completely random "normal", "outgoing", "social" girlfriend or friend whod mistake supermario for a pizza place it might be worth a try. if youre rather into "nerdy", more or less "introvert" people who share your personal interests and intelligence level, faking something you are not would be pointless, wouldnt it?


btw, does your facebook page by any chance reveal how old you are, what your great secret is and in what sense a face can be pregnant? just asking.