What's wrong with me? Why can't I get a girlfriend?

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At first I was sympathetic towards the OP, but now it's starting to sound as though he feels ENTITLED to have a 'hot' girlfriend.

You're going to college, you're working out, and more...and you seem to be doing all of this just to get a 'hot' girlfriend. Now that it's not happening, you're upset. You feel as though you DESERVE a 'hot' girlfriend.

Well, that's plain bullshit. Women aren't a reward you receive for doing things in life. They doen't exist to validate your ego, or your life choices.

You need to radically rethink how you approach other human beings, how you interact with them and how you respect them.

You're never going to get into a relationship, let alone with a hot woman, if you are so desperate to land into a relationship that you let the rest of your life go to hell. Women like to see that men are responsible, mature, and in control of their lives. They can tell if you would be able to maintain a stable, healthy relationship with them. I mean, let's say you do end up going out with a woman you think is hot. What's going to happen when you find out she has a lot of personal issues and has had a rocky past, making her prone to b***h out on you at random sporadic moments even though you've done nothing to deserve such treatment? Are you going to be able to hold your ground and handle that? I'm not trying to discourage you, but that's something to think about.

I would do what everyone else is saying and get your priorities straight before worrying about dating. Once you're settled in, either use an online dating site or go out and meet some women. Read David DeAngelo's materials or find a men's dating group in your area.

Well, I wouldn't say I don't understand how he feels. I mean, there was a time where all I wanted was to have a boyfriend and to be loved. However, his insistence on a hot girlfriend does seem like he thinks he's entitled to it (like AsteroidNap pointed out).

It's not just offensive to women in general (women, "hot" or not, don't want to feel objectified), but it's also confusing. If you want to have a gf, you want to have someone you're close to, somebody to be intimate with (I don't mean on sex here, though that's included if both parties are ok with it). You don't just ignore so many potential girlfriends because they aren't "hot".

Also, and I guess this will sound harsh, you need to have something to offer other than perfect muscles. And no, I don't mean money.

Girls want to be wanted for who they are, and they want you to care for them and invest your time in them. They want you to be their friend at the same time as their boyfriend. Do you want to be friends with a girl? Or all you want is for her to be hot? Are you only interested in girls sexually? I don't think there's anything wrong about being interested in sex (regardless if you're a man or a woman), but that shouldn't be the only reason for a relationship with someone.

I'm 24, about to graduate, I have a job in an important global Telecom corporation, I live in the "nicest" place in town, I've played in a stadium, I've been in international radio, TV, etc... I also get smiles, but I just can't get a girlfriend, I feel like you do... it sucks .

Ok, guys, um, harsh truth: MOST women want men to approach them. The smile you get is a green light. Most women won't approach a man even if they like him much. The smile is a sign to approach.

I know it's not fair. And I know there are women who have no problem approaching guys, but most of the girls want you to approach them.

What I'm saying is, a girlfriend doesn't just "happen" to you. You have to work on approaching her and talking to her. And yes, I know it sounds scary for an Aspie guy to do it, but guess what, NTs are scared of it, too.

Alternatively, you may go after a girl who has no problems approaching a guy, but chances are, you will wait longer to find her than to find a girl who gives you a smile. (= green light)

The last part wasn't directed at Sweetleaf, I meant on the guys.

But I do think it's ok for a girl to approach; hey, that way, you are the one who chose. The thing is, girls often don't approach, they smile and give a green light for a guy to approach.

And yes, Internet can be good for both guys and girls because sometimes it makes us make the move we're scared to make in "reality".