Kinme wrote:
alex_br wrote:
While everybody jumps to call the guy a jerk, let me offer a viable alternative understanding:
He was teasing you, trying to lighten your mood. We do that when we are flirting sometimes, when we try to "break the ice".
Why was he a jerk? Because he said you like candy? Because he tried (and I mean, ASKED) to hold your hand?
Without his side of the story, it's difficult to say, but you might try asking... I do ask when I'm in doubt if the person is joking ( I used to joke back... but then I got in trouble a lot of times because the other person wasn't and I couldn't tell... good times).
I'm pretty sure that calling someone high maintenance is not a compliment. That is why I think he's a jerk- even if he wasn't serious, that could be taken seriously.
You may be right... or not. It's difficult to tell when people are fooling around. The use of words: jerk, a-hole, SoB, (high maintenance, why not) could all be used in a friendly, teasing context (sometimes answered by friendly pokes, fake punches or "get out of here" etc.
Again, I'm not saying that was the case, just that it IS possible and it might be easier to just ask than jump to assumptions.
All in all, I wish the OP best of luck!
You're telling me, haha. I'm used to people saying me things when they were genuinely being mean, so that's how I took it. If it makes Summer_Twilight feel bad, then she shouldn't put up with it. That's what I think.
19 Apr 2012, 5:16 pm
