Is dating awkward to anyone else on here?

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I don't feel awkward when I date, I feel it's more a ridiculous situation, as if I was a child trying to be an adult, or an actress on stage. I laugh when I kiss the guys, because they seem too serious and trascendental while kissing, and I don't understand that. I suppose I use the laughing as a shield because I don't feel comfortable, I don't feel I'm being myself doing serious and trascendental kisses.

Someone feels something similar?

My first GF laughed out of shyness, still think she does.

Funniest thing I've read all day. Thanks.

You are welcome. I'm here to serve you.

Don't be like that.

Well, laugh that comes from shyness is kind of cute

Like what?

English is not my first language, maybe I'm missing something...

Glad you found it funny, like I'm here entertain you.

Like that.

It was an innocent commentary without double meaning.

Cool.

The formal mode of sitting across the table from one another and interviewing as if we're in the Victorian era just clashes with our fundamental thinking on what healthy social dynamics and habits are. Its from that perspective that dating feels like a fail when its canned, deliberate, etc.

I know exactly what you mean
I always feel a little akward, and misplaced in most dating-situations.
Like I'm an object that has absolutely nothing in common with the current surrounding,
( I also feel very "unwanted" at those moments )
I only expierience the 'Date' as some sort of Data-exchange, just information * which doesn't make any sense *.
I'm usually more occupied by my mind, making sure the Data is being processed well, then actually participating in
the emotional/irrational parts of dating.

When kissing someone, try not to analyse (very hard I know) what you're doing, and try not to focus on whatever emotions are activated by this akward an unnatural-feeling interaction that is supposed to be 'nice'.

( I'm sure It can be at some point, I've just never really felt comfortabel with these things, yet I DO long for it ??( My whole existence feels like a huge paradox))

Ah that might because you are kissing NT guys who take themselves very seriously Perhaps you should try an Aspie male. Just a suggestion

Being self serious isn't an NT specific trait.

I don't think it matters what type of guy is involved when kissing or whatever..
' Cause it doesn't theoretically change anything about the situation..
A guy is a guy, a kiss is a kiss...
* All men are weird, aspie or not *

( Just my opinion )