Growing up and done with bad boys

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Um....oh..well...I have mixed feelings about this paragraph.

In one side, it's an immoral attitude to view all non-relative females only in a sex-trade context, this is seriously messed up I believe.

On the other hand, a female 'friend' (not anymore, got too distant from her that we are barely in contact anymore) rudely showed disgust toward of physical traits in some guys that I have them the same.... and I have been indirectly mocked for me having them (yet the last time she saw she flirted me because my body pretty changed LOL), and she wasn't the first female acquaintance or pro-claimed friend who does this. So yea, those girls in specific made me ask "so they see me as friend just because they see as a lesser male?", never remained a friend with those because well...i am a MALE, my gender is a huge part of me as a person, and if a girl thinks of me as a lesser male then she thinks of me as a lesser person and i wouldn't want a friend like that regardless of his/her gender...

This attitude of them toward the male gender is as bad as your only-sex-trade one.

The reason I have a sex-only approach, or a relationship-only approach if that's necessary, is that being friends with women won't benefit me. I'm friends with guys because guys do things I like. Only met a girl once who came somewhat close to those interests. She was a friend of mine's romantic interest, but she didn't want to have a relationship with him and we all lost contact with her.

And if a friendship doesn't involve common interests, it's hard to maintain it.

That doesn't sound like a bad boy to me. Anyone can have those traits if they work on themselves. In fact, I would say those are the most attractive traits anyone could have in dating (being assertive, confident, self-assured, physically fit, etc). When you like yourself, others can like you too.



I can understand why being friends with girls can be hard because of problems caused by AS, but if you make the extra effort to get to know how girls tick, maybe you could understand better how to begin a relationship with a girl, or how to keep one up. I always like to date men who I feel would be a good friend, because I feel that friendship is an important part of a relationship.

Also, expect to be a shoulder to cry on in a relationship. That's inevitable.

If you start pushing women away when they come to you for help now, then they may rightfully assume that you will display the same lack of compassion in a relationship with them.

Not everyone with these traits is a bad boy. However, most bad boys have these traits in some form.



It's a bit harder when they tend to be hostile from the very beginning. Usually, they don't share my interests, they start any conversation with some kind of insult or gossip towards me or a mutual acquaintance, and I find them profoundly uninteresting in general. I'm not sure if it's Asperger's, as it's not the single factor in determining my relationship status in life.



In a relationship, fine. In a friendship, for a good reason, fine. But not if it's the result of anyone's choices in external relationships.



Which is interesting, right? Independent, rugged (not really relevant, but I like that word), 'changeable' - the things women are apparently attracted to in their early 20s.

I don't think you can generalise. You may overlook those who do seek a genuinely nice guy, and they may avoid you because of your cynicism towards women.

It matters how you treat your lady friends... Plus, if you don't have any, then you are missing potential hook-ups with girls who see that you're friends with their friend. I see a lot of women date within their social circle.

"You are a god among insects. Never let anyone tell you any different."
-Magneto

Seriously, you rock!

You have mixed feelings because you know he is right. You cling so desparately to that "we're all the same" religion.

well, you wanted a bad boy, and you got one.

I'm sure that would make a girl feel special, viewing her as a sex vendor or toy to be used in a trade off. If women do use you as an emotional tampon, it's because you aren't asserting the type of relationship or friendship you want, there are friendships between male and female which don't involve being a shrink. You need to assert that to them early on and if they don't like it, you will soon know that the friendship wasn't genuine.

Bertrand Russell said "The trouble with the world is that the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt." and this appears to carry over in a certain manner to dating. For some reason, "bad boys" appear to have these traits more frequently and display them in a more clear manner than "nice guys".

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