Confidence

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Honestly, that is the only way you can find a relationship irl.
The more you read up on all these statistics and theories, the less likely you will have any confidence to approach a potential partner.
At first, you just need confidence... nothing else.

It's not so much about confidence as it is about being a giant egotistical douchebag.

This does exclude Internet Dating and focuses on Interaction with Real Life Situation.

Confidence is just an excuse to be an as*hole. There's no reason to treat other people like s**t. If walking all over other people is what it takes just to get someone to like you, they're not worth it. How anyone could sleep at night after doing that is beyond me.

PastFixations,

Perhaps you could give people a clear definition of what confidence is. I don't think it's been adequately defined, considering how often it's mentioned.

Also, this is my opinion, but even though these threads center around men having confidence, it's also important for women to have it as well.

Never been looking for anything -- relationship, romance, sex, affairs. It has always found me, just happened to me.

Confidence doesn't mean you have to act like an as*hole. It's just about feeling capable and good about yourself. It's not the same as being egotistical, which is more about feeling so good about yourself that you think you are better than other people. Confidence is absolutely an important aspect of dating, being an egotistical douchebag not so much.

WIKI TELLS US:
Confidence is generally described as a state of being certain either that a hypothesis or prediction is correct or that a chosen course of action is the best or most effective. Self-confidence is having confidence in oneself. Arrogance or hubris in this comparison, is having unmerited confidence—believing something or someone is capable or correct when they are not. Overconfidence or presumptuousness is excessive belief in someone (or something) succeeding, without any regard for failure. Scientifically, a situation can only be judged after the aim has been achieved or not. Confidence can be a self-fulfilling prophecy as those without it may fail or not try because they lack it and those with it may succeed because they have it rather than because of an innate ability.

McAnulty is spot on with my thread meaning.
Having confidence in yourself does not mean to act like a jerk.
It's about encouraging yourself to talk and not thinking of anything that you believe they don't like about you.
Confidence is about being certain in your abilities or qualities...
Overconfidence are what the jerks tend to end up because they think have the power to do what they please.