Can you be Aspie and affectionate?

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Can an NT be affectionate?

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Ahem.

Yes many are actually. I am affectionate and sentimental.

Yeah, I love hugging and kissing and cuddling and such.

I love physical affection, just keeping the person to be affectionate to is the problem.

i desire, crave physical affection, but can't get it

I absolutely crave physical affection. I am a hugmonger. For me, hugging's the game, loving's the aim. There is nothing like feeling the warmth of another human being especially one that is female in my case. Hugging is the most pleasure I've felt without contracting a deadly disease.

I'm definitely cat-like in my affection. If I like you, I'm always looking to be petted and will smother you with attention and affection. If I don't like you (or don't know you), STAY AWAY! Or at least wait until I come to you.

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nope its absolutely impossible, theres no way an Aspie can be affectionate...

My parents would likely say I'm anti-affection because I never liked affection with them(hated hugs & the like) & I also hate being touched unexpectedly & don't like being touched that much by people in general. Some of it may be due to a PTSD like thing because I was physically bullied aLOT when I was little. However I love being affectionate with my partner & had a strong desire for affection when I was single which was some of why I HATED being single

Yes, one can be an Aspie and also be affectionate.
One may be affectionate with whomever one meets, or one may be affectionate only with a few select people.
My family said that I was a very affectionate child, though I remember not liking the smooches from older relatives when I was a kid.
As an adult, I'm quite affectionate & enjoy physicality with an SO-but finding/meeting a BF that lives nearby is a problem I've yet to solve.

Yeah, only when I'm not very stressed out. I won't allow a touch from anyone when I am.

Well, it's harder now as I have more of a shell than I did, say 10 years ago... but if I trusted you, yeah.

I've had that over-cuddling issue with my first cat.

It was because I had no pet of my own when I was a boy. My Aspie Dad dislikes cats & dogs. My youngest sister is allegeric to pet dandruff. We had rabbits instead, which I hate, because rabbits do 3 things: Eat, poo, and hop.

So it wasn't until 1991 when, a couple of years after moving out that I got MY OWN pet.

I had so much pent up need to cuddle a cat that by the time I had Smiles, I cuddled him so much...And then he'd get tired of the cuddles...I didn't wanna let him go out of my arms in my apt.

He'd start to hiss and scratch me.

But...and there's always a but...

This is giving me practice for when I have my own Human kids.

Just like with the cats, I love to cuddle with kids.

Practicing with cats these past two decades has taught me that it's important to let go...

Too much love, affection, cuddles, can stifle a being, whether it's a cat or a Human.