Can you be Aspie and affectionate?

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Not true.

You can get affection from many beings:

* A Human - incarnate or discarnate spirit
* An Animal - a pet
* Nature - trees
* A teddy bear - yes, even a teddy bear can have some consciousness in it

Yes, you definitely can be. I absolutely love giving and receiving affection from others, especially with my boyfriend. The affection that I give him, though, is greatly different than that of the affection I would give to say my younger brothers or other family members.

Definitely, I'm super affectionate and I think I might really crave affection as a strong interest.

Yes, I am a very affectionate person. I like to take care of others that I love.

I believe that Aspies can be affectionate. I'm an Aspie and there have been plenty of occasions where I've desired affection. I've even fantasized about receiving affection from one of the opposite sex (aside from my mom) partially because I've never had a girlfriend. Despite this, I still want to know what it's like to kiss and even snuggle with a girl among other things. So yeah, I believe that desiring affection is normal for an Aspie though it doesn't apply to every Aspie necessarily. Every Aspie is different and what one might desire another could just as easily be terrified of. It's all just a matter of knowing what you're comfortable with.

I am super affectionate and LOVED all the cute stuff with my past girlfriends =) That includes holding hands, cuddling (for hours), hugging, brushing my face/nose/lips on hers, kissing softly, kissing her face everywhere. All the innocent things. All hightend by my sensitivity to touch. As far as being touched it's difficult sometimes as being tickled or touched lightly makes me angry. Being touched in this way is overwhelming and feels like I'm recieving an electric shock. Around my torso is super sensitive to touch especially my belly. I don't like being touched on my sides or my belly at all.

It's a conflicted thing.

I can definitely relate to the emotional side of this. For over a decade before I was diagnosed as an Aspie, my mom in particular noticed that whenever she asked me to smile for a picture that my smiles were small, soft, and almost hardly noticeable plus that I had a flat affect in that I wouldn't show much emotion in speech. After I was diagnosed and she learned more about it, she came to realize that I just have a different way of expressing emotion and that I do it on a different level. I have worked over the years on my affect, but I'll never be the type of person who does one of those big cartoony grins because it's just not something I'm comfortable with. That doesn't mean I'm an emotionless shell of a human being. I'm just more reserved at times. Get me hopped up on 2 cans of Monster though and I swear I become as hyperactive and bubbly as Pinkie Pie. Not even joking.

I too can be like pinkie pie at times. I am also like here in how I always try to make others happy.