How to deal with unwanted attention?

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OMG, J-Greens. Why the f.....why would you say something like that? *facepalm* Now you just painted all men in a bad light.

In my opinion some women love male attention and they give mixed messages to men of this sort:-

"Look how sexually attractive I am everybody!'
'How Dare you look at me like that, pervert!'

...which obviously confuses the hell out of the average man!

I've noticed that the type of woman who says she regularly gets harassed by men is
a) pretty/sexually attractive
b) exceedingly proud of the fact and overly keen to share it with others

I'd say you can't have your cake and eat it!

If I walk around in a t-shirt or any outfit that shows off my chest I would not be surprised to see men stare at my chest, possibly smile at me, possibly make comment on my chest to each other

So if I don't want men to do this I don't wear the figure-revealing outfit or wear a coat over it - simple!

Some women want the male attention but also want to control exactly how men react to them - this isn't possible and is exceedingly foolhardy in my opinion

So, Nessa, what you're saying is you didn't comprehend the original post? Or you just love the opportunity to put others down?


I don't want male attention, I've dated guys but I just don't find them sexually attractive. I like women. I don't dress in revealing clothes and I'm not pretty. I'm also in no way responsible for the poor choices other people make.

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I have a Jay Leno chin and I wear baggy clothes.

http://i15.photobucket.com/albums/a367/ ... ea0940.jpg

The only difference between that picture and now is that I cut all of my hair off and I'm starting to slim down from weight training. And it's not like these guys are even close to my age or the kind of guys who get a lot of female attention .. one was extremely smelly, possibly homeless. Most of them had awful breath and didn't seem very keen on personal hygiene.

I was being really passive and I think each case was related to how obvious it was that I was uncomfortable speaking up for myself. But if people have no respect for the personal space of others, that's not anyone's fault but their own.

To say women who dress a certain way deserve what they get implies men are entitled to women's bodies if they are in anyway exposed. That's completely wrong. Women are entitled to their autonomy. No one is entitled to the body of another.

It doesn't matter if someone finds me attractive, they don't have the right to touch me or block my path to move away from them.

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I don't really care what you'd like to see, my friend. This is not the "why do men harass meems" thread, so if you've really read it, maybe you should give it a reread to see if you can better comprehend what this discussion is.

I shouldn't have to wear a burqa in order to feel safe.

I'm regaining confidence and this hasn't happened much lately.

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