Women who throw themselves at men on dating sites

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one of the women got 11 messages, which is very few compared to the number the top female got. also compared to the 38 messages one male got, i'd say she was much worse off than him. so the silly list that put women above men in online dating doesn't work. some women get fewer messages than men, even though the onus is generally upon men to send the messages.

considering that women are mocked and derided for sending messages at all (hence the point of this thread), i'd say that isn't going to change anytime soon.

Or just move to a place not America where the food supply isn't f****d up and there's not high fructose corn syrup in everything, and then you'll have your fair pick of girls that aren't fat. In places not America/West, girls generally aren't fat, so therefore even an "ugly" girl is hot by American standards. American standards have dropped to "You're not fat, why, you're gorgeous!" But males, if you yourselves are fat, then you will get a fat girl. It's that simple.

Also, having Aspergers unfortunately means you yourself have "baggage" and you yourself are considered "crazy." So you will get a girl with "baggage" too. That is reality.

So if you want a hot girl, look like Dimitri Klokov and there you go. And for all the "girls care more about feelings and intellect" no. Girls are way nicer to me now that I've lost weight and started lifting. The "...." look girls used to give me now is a smile. So based on personal experience, if you're an ugly guy, less women will like you. I guess by some percentage, girls care less about looks than guys, I'll grant that, but I don't think the percentage is as high as it's made out to be. And because of the "baggage" of Aspergers, you will either get a girl with baggage of some sort, or she'll be ugly.

So I figure the best time for me to date would be when I look like Dimitri Klokov and make lots of money.

"The ugliest man got nothing after four months of desperation. The three men with looks ranging from ugly to above-average received a grand total of three messages over four months. If you are the average man, don’t plan on letting your generic beta profile and photo do your work for you. Hell, even if you are a good-looking man, you won’t have many messages to work with after four months. Conclusion: Men, you NEED game in order to excel in the thunderbone that is online dating. Otherwise, you’ll have better odds picking up women just talking to any of them that you meet walking down the street.

Worse, the ugliest woman got nearly as many messages as the best-looking man! (Or second-best-looking man, depending on your judgment of the rank order of male photos.) The second-ugliest woman — a piddling 3 or 4 by most men’s standards — received as many messages as the two hottest men received."

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2012/06/ ... xperiment/

A location change would be in order for me anyway to find a woman-- damn near every woman I've talked to from some part of Europe (which I will admit has only been about 3 or 4 of them) have found me handsome for some reason (maybe because I look "exotic" to them or something?) while here I'm just thought of as either below average or the "U" word.

Too bad I will never have the money to leave this country. :/

Well, that's been my strategy thus far (not that I've been trying terribly hard, or really much at all.) Glad to know it's the best.

just because the man didn't get any initial messages didn't mean he wouldn't get any replies to the messages he sent. you are conveniently disregarding the fact that men send the majority of initial messages on dating sites, so of course women will end up getting more messages overall.

and your list still didn't work because some of the men got more messages than some of the women - even though the onus is on the men to send initial messages. so some of the men would have had not only initial messages from women but also replies from women. the study didn't show that.

your basic premise is flawed. if it corrected for the proportion of initial messages sent by men (5 to 1? 10 to 1?) then we might have data that could be compared across genders.

Firstly I don't see every woman walking around with a guy that looks like Jay Cutler or even Van Damme.

Those who share an afflication or conviction are likely to have a greater mutual understanding and diverse attitude. People who are afraid of diversity shouldn't matter if acceptance is what truly matters. Pain and struggle doesn't define us, how we respond to the pain is what defines us. You defined yourself by making a healthy lifestyle choice and now that is more apparent, you will receive more positive initial attention but it won't instantly make you God's gift to women.

In any case, finding women that have an appreciation and admiration for the sport is likely to a better bet. Just like a classic car is more likely to be appreciated at a classic car show.

Doesn't guarantee a successful relationship, granted, but it guarantees more interest in you regardless, as the OKC study showed (both for men and women.) My problems aren't really shyness or introversion per se, it's more just social awkwardness. From what people tell me, I have like barely better than Chris-chan level social skills. So I figure in my case, social skills and my like, state of existence with NVLD/AS is much harder to manipulate than my looks, which are relatively easy to manipulate by comparison. Of course, I still doubt any woman longterm would put up with my eccentricness. However, if you want one night stands (my religious beliefs sort of don't allow that) I'd say it'd definitely help that.

It seems unless you have a LOT to bring to the table, you're pretty much screwed as far as dating goes with AS. I know a guy who likely has AS at my church. He's got a 170 IQ supposedly, and has a photographic memory. So much so on elementary school tests he'd like, put the exact page number of where the answer was found in the textbook on the tests. He also was a nationally ranked powerlifter (6'0 at 240lbs with 6% bodyfat, with a 500 bench) and played college football and has had relative success career-wise. He's about as awkward as me, but much more...useful. He's married, and married at a fairly normal time (his 20s, iirc.)

I don't think women date AS men because they make them "feel" good. I think they only date AS men because they're useful to them in some way, or will be a good provider or protector of them. Not because we can emotionally make them feel better than other men can. I believe that ship has sailed for us (well maybe I should just speak for myself here) and that's the only angle that can be worked with. If you're not "useful" then you're not going anywhere with AS.

No, you are NOT being too uptight. Did you call her cell#? If you did is it who she said she is?

When a woman does this, this is a RED FLAG Online dating sites are full of scammers and fakers, and there is a good chance that she is isn't who you think she is and is impersonating someone. Fake facebook and twitter accounts do exist. So yeah, you should be suspicious and proceed with extreme caution. Do not expect anything from this person. Whoever they may be IRL.

just because he doesnt want an UGLYor FAT girl doesn't mean he is judgmental.Perhaps he just wants a girl who he finds cute or atlleast mildly attractive with no ugly qualities?I personally would date girls 6/10 as that is above average but nothing special. From there she has to have a good personality: Be intelligent, honest, etc. I would date a chubby girl as long as her face/skin was above average

Welllllll, technically it *does* make him judgemental.......But since when is being judgemental a bad thing? Women are judgemental and men are too. I know plenty of fat chicks who are quite picky even though everyone around them says that they don't have a right to be.

LOL@The Face of Boo thinking he can tell other people how picky they should or shouldn't be!

am i the only one who noticed that both the girl with 400 messages and the girl with 500 have full inboxes. That makes no sense.

^^^shhhhhh don't expect sciencey science from a PUA

yeah... see I would have gone for the girl with only 48... I find her more attractive than the others.

i wouldnt call any of those girls attractive..maybe the one who got 76 but none are anything crazy. the one with 500 messages looks like a guy/halle barry(not into halle barry)