Women who throw themselves at men on dating sites

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Hey look, it's someone else who gets it!

I know what you mean - I've never related to this type of woman at all. I don't have an ideal lifestyle I want to create with the help of any man's money. I like to use my own money to get stuff I want too. Ideally I like to win stuff or earn vouchers for giving my opinion on forums - that's the best thing!

I've been with a bf who gave me money most times we met as I wasn't working and he bought me a lot of things too. While this was exceedingly generous and kind of him I felt a little uneasy about it as sometimes I wanted to pay my own way/buy my own things. It made me feel conflicted.

I rarely click with high fliers/high earners as I'm not ambitious or go-getting enough for them and they are too mentally wearing and empty-headed for me. They are too focused on displaying their success to everyone by buying all the right stuff etc - it's a hollow lifestyle imo.

If attraction really built then it would be a good idea to be friends first then end up in a relationship. But it never works that way.

Why do you say that?

attraction only builds if your partner is ugly and you feel some need to justify bein with them..so you say well this isnt hat bad or that's not so bad and eventually you're in love with the. Most relationships get worse over time

How can you speak with any kind of authority on the matter when you feely admit you've not lost your virginity yet/can't find a girlfriend?

People tend to take advice from those in the know

a male may have to ask 10 women out and be lucky if he gets with one of them. a female may be asked out by 10 guys and she gets to choose the one guy she gets with, an easy female would sleep with all 10 guys. in both situations the females have the power to choose, the males are powerless.

An Aspie male would have to ask out 100 females in order to be lucky enough to get with one. Due to our lack of social skills and inability to read between the lines Aspie males have the least success when it comes to dating.

In my opinion aspie males are more likely to have success with older women or single mothers as these women are going to be more tolerant of their difficulties and more maternal towards them.
But if the aspie males remain fixated on getting a girlfriend just like their NT peers they are going to have a much harder time. People should be looking to get their emotional and physical needs met more than having some kind of fantasy woman which is highly unrealistic.

I agree and disagree.

If you find someone absolutely unattractive, it's unlikely that attraction will build.

But if you find someone a little bit attractive, it's very possible it will build up.

i have common sense and a a human who is attracted to girls. I don't need to stick my dick in a girl to know what I'm talking about...besides that was a poor analogy as we are talking about long duration loving relationships and not 15 minutes of pleasure.

An older lady or a single mother may indeed be more maternal and understanding. However I believe they would prefer someone who can look after them and be an equal to them emotionally, spiritually and intellectually.

on the other hand males are interested in who they ask out most of the time. If a woman gets asked out by 10 uggo-s she really isnt choosing anyone she is in the saem boat as us..BUT women usually get asked out by average looking guys so it's only a matter of tie lol..plus if a woman asked a guy out he prob would say yes...for f**k buddies atleast.

I think it varies a lot. A lot of older women and single mothers are as lonely and isolated as male aspies and would probably welcome the opportunity to have someone to talk to, someone for company and to be a couple with. People are all different and not all women are looking for the same thing. A lot of woman like having a man to look after and fuss over and let's face it a lot of young men like being mothered! In this way the aspie male can grow as a person in a supportive relationship. It's a common thing, older women with younger men.
My partner is 32 and I'm 46 and while he can drive me mad sometimes at other times it works well. I think I am willing to tolerate far more than an age appropriate woman so he gets my tolerance in return for me getting his younger spirit and other obvious benefits!

I would state though that I look young for my age and certainly don't act my age a lot of the time lol so in that respect the age thing is less apparent and it's negligible who is the most mature between the two of us sometimes lol I think he's probably somewhere on the spectrum as well; he's certainly not NT.

In my experience it doesn't work approaching the men; they have to come to me for the very fact that men are so dam fussy, as evidenced on this thread! lol They will automatically put a woman who approaches them in the 'desperate' category. The logic will obviously be 'Why is she having to approach the men herself? - it must mean the other men don't want her' not to mention the 'If she regularly approaches men off her own bat like this she must be promiscuous', which is another no no where most men are concerned.

yah dating is tough