Women who throw themselves at men on dating sites

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Well to me, a person who can be so judgemental of others must be pretty hot stuff themself
and if they are presumably they would have women throwing themself at them

The phrase 'people in glass houses' comes to mind

I'm not throwing rocks at people.

I fully understand personality is the most important et cetera et cetera.
But I can't look past ugly appearances, it just isn't happening, high-standards and all~

I guess I'm a horrible person :3

calling people "ugly" is a world away from saying they are "not your type". one way of seeing/saying it portrays them as so fugly that nobody would touch them, which is pretty vile. the other way of seeing/saying it allows that they are attractive to other people but not to you. that would indicate a mature awareness that you understand that attraction isn't universal by any stretch of the imagination.

I think the tactful person thinks the same but doesn't vocalise it

If I don't like the appearance of a person I don't feel the need to criticise them or call them a name; I just say they are not my type

Great minds think alike!

I think it has a lot to do with whether a person has been called unattractive themselves. As I have I know how horrible it is to be termed ugly hence I never use the word. On the other hand I'm rarely if ever called stupid and I often call others this so you can see that people are sensitive around trigger words that have been used against themselves but words which have not used against them aren't emotionally loaded hence they aren't bothered by them.

Ugly is a matter of opinion. Just because you think they're ugly doesn't mean they are.

It's not "I don't date ugly people", it's "I don't date people who don't physically appeal to me personally".

My brother thinks Miranda Kerr and Lara Bingle are ugly, so there you go.

well, exactly. but really - if you pick any "hot" celebrity, uhhhhh i dunno.... Alison Brie, for example... you will find as many people on the internet calling her ugly as there are calling her beautiful or sexy. there just isn't any consistency in people's tastes, and even supposedly gorgeous people get called mean words simply for not being someone's tastes. it's absolutely ridiculous, disrespectful, and i think is a bigger reflection of the speaker than the object of disdain.

I agree totally

I have noticed that it's standard practice these days for people online to pull famous peoples' looks apart, particularly women. It's like revenge on them for daring to be famous and often has little to do with how they actually look.

Too true~

It's envy. I know sometimes women pull female celebs to pieces because they're dating their fave male celebrity too.

Celebs, male and female, I've found have an extreme high standard of glamour and looks placed on them (wear the wrong dress to the Grammy's and it's like you're vulture food).

Yes. Far from envying them, I feel sorry for them as they have impossibly high standards set on them which no human could ever hope to reach. They are resorting to botox and plastic surgery at younger and younger ages now as well. They might make a lot of money out of it all but I can't see how they can be truly happy long term as all they've got to look forward to is ageing and loads of plastic surgery! And they can't even comfort eat to make themselves feel better! So I certainly don't envy them.

what do you mean, I'm "choosing to be ugly?"

I'm not telling you to go date someone you find absolutely hideous... But you people seem to, on the flip side, be going after only what you find absolutely mind blowingly beautiful, like some damn fairy tale or something.... You're no better than the crazy b*****s who give laundry lists of what they want in a man yet don't possess themselves like a job, a car, a house, and a ton of money.

Look... If you see Jabba the Hut and are repulsed by it, that's fine. And the same goes for the hunchback of notre dame... But for christ's sake, people, stop holding out for some fairy tale that doesn't even exist. You people are way too idealistic, and no, giving people a chance isn't a sign of desperation; LAMENTING ON AN INTERNET FORUM ABOUT HOW YOU CAN'T GET A DATE/LAID IS . I'm telling you to give people who you don't necessarily think are hot s**t a chance. That doesn't mean go find a hippo and date it. That simply means stop being such a picky idiot. If you'd actually listen to me, you'd understand what I'm talking about. You'd find that the people you just love to look down on and reject are wonderful people who would make you feel amazing, but you'd rather put your nose in the air and spew some BS about "standards" and "not my type." Whatever. Then have fun being a lonely virgin if you're not gonna take any advice, and for the love of christ, quit your bitchin'. Because the truth of the matter is most of the people who you want(based solely on looks... Have fun with that when she gets wrinkly. What are you gonna do then?) are people you can never have because you suck at being social and other things that those people tend to want because they know they can and will get. Have fun playing a losing game your entire lives. Have fun being lonely, and have fun being miserable... You people have ZERO right to complain.

You can't tell other people how to think; think being the operative word here! lol

You're speaking to a brick wall, brother.

I was the first one to use the term, and didn't mean it looks-wise at all. If I HAD then I would have mentioned that because I have the stupid tendency to be too honest about that sort of thing, mostly online. I'm not handsome myself, and have been called ugly a million and one times, so I never use that word to refer to anyone if I can help it. It's an awful word. I'd rather think of a girl that doesn't appeal to me physically as just not being my type, rather than not being beautiful.