called creepy when not even hittin on

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has anyone here ever been called creepy, when you were not even asking out a women.
never happen to me but I've heard a story where a guy complain he was called a creep and
all he was doing was asking a woman what time it was.

Someone here recently posted that they were called creepy while they were sleeping lol. I never knew that creepy people slept differently than anyone else myself. I have personally never been called creepy and hope to never be, although I have at times been worried that my lack of social skills may give off creepy vibes in some situations.

I was never called creepy, but I've had plenty of gals creep on me for all the wrong reasons. :/

Yes, I have been a called creep just walking down the street by females, I wish they didn't though.

It's easy to get creepzoned -- all you have to do is be a man behaving in ways that ignore social norms surrounding personal space, privacy, and sexuality.

Such as saying "Hello" to a pretty girl when she doesn't want you to.

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^^^creepy-ass aspiesandra

Yeah, I've been called creepy by people I've never even spoken to. For stuff like eating my lunch alone at work (it was my first week at that job, I didn't know anyone, what was I supposed to do?), or mostly hanging around by myself when I was living in college dorms (not everyone can fit themselves into a new group of friends in less than a day like most of them managed to).

And of course, once a few people start saying that about you, everyone else starts avoiding you which makes it impossible to get rid of the label. Lost that job I mentioned because of it. Quit that school because of it.

Do you know what I say about people like that? Well, I would probably be banned for using too many expletives. They are just not worth our time. If I had a pound for the amount of times I was bullied, laughed at, had nasty comments about this or that aspect of my personality, my clumsiness, my eccentric way of dressing at times; I would be rich. I am now happy with who I am, and if people don't like me, they know where the door is. I am sick and tired of NT's being rude and mean about people who are different. The reason why I Zzzzzzzzz is because there are thousands of threads on this same theme and I don't find it constructive, to just lament a situation. I know it's not easy. and somehow a few males seem to think women have an easier ride. I would invite anyone to take a walk in my shoes and then comment. Maybe we are not just whining about it so much, and look for ways to either change/adapt, or to build up emotional strength to cope with it and ignore those freaks. Yes, *they* are the freaks, not us. I think the distress is legitimate, but the "self pity" aspect, is downright negative.

It's frustrating because it does have actual, concrete, effects on a person's life that can't just be dismissed.

Work, for instance. Finding a job is difficult for me. Finding one I can do well is exponentially more difficult. And finding one I can do well, that also pays enough to support myself, is near impossible.

So when a few women (sorry, but I've never been called creepy by anyone but women) start shit-talking in ways that lose me that job once I've finally found it (or drive me out of the school I'd chosen, or make it so that I have to avoid places I like spending time at) it causes some bitterness.

And it's not as simple as just saying that they're not worth my time. They are worth my time because I end up losing things that matter to me because of them.

And there's some added frustration when, while trying to vent about it to the only group I think might understand, the discussion is constantly turned to those who actually do stuff to earn the label, with the implication being that it is never (or almost never) applied to those who don't. Oddly enough, in purely social situations, I can put on a likeable persona. When I'm actually hitting on women is one of the few times I'm not thought of as creepy.

Change and adapt? I'd love to. But I don't know how. That front I can put up when being social is just not appropriate in other environments. And, even if it were, it's exhausting. Being able to do it for a few hours a couple times a week is different from doing it all day, every day.

Develop the emotional strength to cope with it and ignore them? Great, but you can't get a degree in emotional strength and it doesn't come with a paycheck, and ignoring them lost me a good job and forced me out of school.

I just don't know what to do.

mds...hugs. I *do* know where you are coming from. I honestly don't even know how I haven't been sacked from this job. Mostly I also try to put on an act, but often i run to places like the toilets, where I close the door and...well, we all know.

I have good days and bad days. But the only relief I have is being able to come home, shut the doors and no talk or see anyone until it is time to go back. I *never* socialise. I have grown a thick skin, or perhaps I think I have, and what I do a lot is, if I know someone is making fun of me, or making false judgements, I withdraw, I sometimes confront them (this is extremely hard and it takes all my energy, meaning I have to leave the work place on the spot, or I pretend I ignore and think about my CBT therapy and what I was told to try and think. No, I am not perfect, no, I can't be to everyone's taste, no, people don't have the right to make fun of me but they do, and yes, they are the ones in the wrong and not me.

I would like you to know I am here if you need a friend. I do empathise, but being an aspie I have a crap way of showing it sometimes?

To be honest, all I feel like doing when I hear how some people are bullied, is go out and beat the crap out of those who bully.

Now, let's work on self esteem. Let's focus on our good traits, and even those that others think are negative? It *really* is their problem. We are different and we should be proud. Big hug. x

The only time I would ever call someone creepy is when they bring in lethal objects in school! (happened to me sadly ....no I didn't do it....two people I knew did!)

I have grew up with creepy people (I have a friend who looks like he's a murderer and one who looks like he has a dark incentive to do something).

Not been called it myself but I have heard an "ewww" by me by a girl who's sister didn't do anything about a murder near my area! (My bro said "cheeky cow, she can't call you")

Women have creepzoned me for offering to buy them drinks, for not buying them drinks when they ask me to, for pointing at the clock when they ask me for the time, for holding a door open for them, for not holding a door open for them, for pointing out where their opinions are inconsistent with reality, for not taking their sides when they were clearly in the wrong, for pointing out that their kids were being unruly little monsters during church services, for saying 'Hello', for not saying 'Hello', for ignoring them, for paying attention to them, for using the last itty-bitty bit of coffee creamer in the break room, for saying "Pass the salt, please" at a diner counter, for failing to make the coffee at work, for making coffee at work and not using decaff, for disagreeing with them during a meeting, for not dropping everything that I'm doing just to fetch them a latte, for cutting them off in traffic, for letting them cut in front of me in the check-out line, for editing their writing with a red pen, for pointing out that their dogs are crapping in my yard, for pointing out that they are parked illegally, for not returning their cheerful "Good Morning" promptly and in an equally cheerful tone, for saying "New haircut? Looks nice!", for not noticing when they've had a new haircut, for not asking for a second date ...

... I could go on. Shall I?