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09 Dec 2012, 1:20 pm

Fnord, what about nice stuff you have experienced? :)



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09 Dec 2012, 1:22 pm

Well, that's what you get when you keep bumping into the bad apples.



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09 Dec 2012, 1:34 pm

The stuff I know I have been creepy with has changed. But then there are those things like "taking a mild interest" in someone and they tell me I am creepy. I don't necessarily think that I may be a creepy person, just that some people are a lost cause to begin with because of their attitudes and perceptions of others. Not sure if anyone is to blame in that regard.



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09 Dec 2012, 8:14 pm

DialAForAwesome wrote:
Stargazer43 wrote:
Someone here recently posted that they were called creepy while they were sleeping lol. I never knew that creepy people slept differently than anyone else myself. I have personally never been called creepy and hope to never be, although I have at times been worried that my lack of social skills may give off creepy vibes in some situations.


That was me. Swear that happened too. I was about 15 or 16 at the time staying at a friend's house. His sister made the comment so I said something like "well the fact that you knew what I looked like while sleeping was creepy in and of itself!" and she shut up for the rest of the day. I can't stand people like that.


Nor me

Words like 'creepy' define the sayer as stupid, rude and insensitive and they deserve to be
horrifically murdered by people in the vicinity who've cracked mentally from the strain of being called creepy!



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10 Dec 2012, 11:04 am

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Women have creepzoned me for offering to buy them drinks, for not buying them drinks when they ask me to, for pointing at the clock when they ask me for the time, for holding a door open for them, for not holding a door open for them, for pointing out where their opinions are inconsistent with reality, for not taking their sides when they were clearly in the wrong, for pointing out that their kids were being unruly little monsters during church services, for saying 'Hello', for not saying 'Hello', for ignoring them, for paying attention to them, for using the last itty-bitty bit of coffee creamer in the break room, for saying "Pass the salt, please" at a diner counter, for failing to make the coffee at work, for making coffee at work and not using decaff, for disagreeing with them during a meeting, for not dropping everything that I'm doing just to fetch them a latte, for cutting them off in traffic, for letting them cut in front of me in the check-out line, for editing their writing with a red pen, for pointing out that their dogs are crapping in my yard, for pointing out that they are parked illegally, for not returning their cheerful "Good Morning" promptly and in an equally cheerful tone, for saying "New haircut? Looks nice!", for not noticing when they've had a new haircut, for not asking for a second date ...

... I could go on. Shall I?
i thought you mentioned in other posts that you aren't into girls?

You should actually read my posts. I am and have always been gynotropic.

aspiesandra27 wrote:
Fnord, what about nice stuff you have experienced? :)

That's not the topic of this thread.

Uprising wrote:
Well, that's what you get when you keep bumping into the bad apples.

Too bad there are so damned many of them. It's like practically the whole orchard has fruit rot!


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10 Dec 2012, 11:35 am

I can count the nice things I've experienced on one hand and only one finger myself. I also agree with Fnord that most people are bad apples. An overwhelming majority at that. Other than most of the members here, and a few people in real life I can't stand anyone, and they can't stand me. The feeling is mutual, though they felt that way about me first.

Also I teehee'd at nessa's post! :P


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10 Dec 2012, 11:40 am

Guilty.

There was once a girl in high school I felt affection for. I didn't hit on her at all. She treated me as though I didn't exist, and it turns out she was a little rude to begin with. In the end, she wasn't my type.



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10 Dec 2012, 1:50 pm

There is an interesting discussion here somewhere, once you get past the bitterness.

I said in the other thread that creepiness feeling is just a subjective emotion, which is very often an default for unspecific social unease. It can be triggered by social awkwardness. It can be based on unfounded perceptions of predation.

However what I didn't also say is whilst everyone may have felt the feeling, those that would comment it like so would have some esteem, or anxiety issues themselves.

Just because someone says you are a creep doesn't mean you are one, whatever 'creep' means.

It should be water off a duck's back.


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10 Dec 2012, 2:30 pm

0_equals_true wrote:
It should be water off a duck's back.


It would be nice if that were the case. But, in the real world, the things people say about a person can have actual, very negative, effects on that person's life, outside of just making them feel bad.



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10 Dec 2012, 2:50 pm

mds_02 wrote:
0_equals_true wrote:
It should be water off a duck's back.


It would be nice if that were the case. But, in the real world, the things people say about a person can have actual, very negative, effects on that person's life, outside of just making them feel bad.


This is what's known as resilience or lack of. The quicker you can recover, the quicker you can move on, not doing so means they it will have a negative impact on you life, this is how anxiety disorders get going. It is a cycle of negative thinking that becomes habitual.

You won't grow in confidence, if you are too scared of people reactions. You should take feedback, but with a big pitch of salt. If you get confident stuff like this is water of a duck's back.

Believe me you are preaching to the choir, I have been there and know full well what you are talking about. Reacting to this, will mean you are showing it is bothering you, people will pick up on that.

If you think hard how you typically think of other people in you head, I'd bet you are no saint. However most of this momentary. This is how people are, they are self centered, and therefore you get the off the cuff remarks like that. The vast majority of it is momentary, transient an meaningless. Unless of course you act true to form, in which case they will start to believe it.


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10 Dec 2012, 3:07 pm

lol when searching for what gynotropic means i found fnord on another forum posting
http://forums.randi.org/showthread.php?t=178408


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