FWB relationships - your opinion?

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13 May 2013, 11:31 am

On another thread there is a discussion of FWB relationships. It's not what the thread was about and so I thought I'd start a thread to discuss it. Whats your opinion of a friends with benefits relationship? Another poster said he felt it was demeaning, and I wonder why. Personally, I think that if both parties are ok with it that it's fine.


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13 May 2013, 11:36 am

Other people: none of my business.

Myself: as long as something was not misadvertised I'd have no issue. And that applies for more than just this issue.



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13 May 2013, 11:49 am

I feel it demeaning because the only purpose would be sex. FWB is just something I'd rather not be a part of. Like I said, I would feel I was stealing from the other party, it wouldn't feel morally right. I have little chance at it so it might as well be through marriage, those are just my thoughts.


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13 May 2013, 11:51 am

It sounds like where a guy and girl pretend to be just friends, but then when one of them gets a real boyfriend/girlfriend the other one gets mad of course and proves it was fake. :roll:



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13 May 2013, 11:51 am

I hold the view that sex is a privilege of the attractive (and the rich). Can FWB challenge this claim?



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13 May 2013, 11:54 am

appletheclown wrote:
I feel it demeaning because the only purpose would be sex. FWB is just something I'd rather not be a part of. Like I said, I would feel I was stealing from the other party, it wouldn't feel morally right. I have little chance at it so it might as well be through marriage, those are just my thoughts.


But whats wrong with the purpose just being sex? You said it wouldn't feel morally right, do you feel that way for religious reasons or for some other reason?

In my opinion there are two types of FWB relationships. There is the "booty call" type, where the two people don't ever really see each other except for sex. They don't talk on the phone or FB or hang out or anything, it's just for sex and only sex. The other type is two actual friends who like each other and enjoy each others company but while they don't have any romantic feelings for each other, they are physically attracted to each other and act on it.


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13 May 2013, 11:59 am

TheValk wrote:
I hold the view that sex is a privilege of the attractive (and the rich). Can FWB challenge this claim?

There is a programme in Britain called the Jeremey Kyle show that destroys that thesis.



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13 May 2013, 12:00 pm

TheValk wrote:
I hold the view that sex is a privilege of the attractive (and the rich). Can FWB challenge this claim?


Roughly 90% of alleged NTs act like it's the weirdest and most-shocking thing they've ever heard if someone tells them they're still a virgin past early 20s.(even if the virgin is ugly and/or poor)



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13 May 2013, 12:01 pm

FWB is quite good but it's rare when one party doesn't develop feelings for the other.



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13 May 2013, 12:06 pm

Aren't these threads perhaps more appropriate for adult aspies discussion, rather than L&D?



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13 May 2013, 12:10 pm

Pretty cool.



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13 May 2013, 12:14 pm

Disraeli wrote:
Aren't these threads perhaps more appropriate for adult aspies discussion, rather than L&D?


I don't think so. It's about relationships, and this is where people discuss relationships. It's not dirty or explicit, so I don't see why it should be in the adult section. Lots of people discuss relationships of this type in threads on here, so why not discuss the concept? Why do you think it should go in the adult section?


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13 May 2013, 12:15 pm

Ferrus91 wrote:
TheValk wrote:
I hold the view that sex is a privilege of the attractive (and the rich). Can FWB challenge this claim?

There is a programme in Britain called the Jeremey Kyle show that destroys that thesis.


[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QrLWO0pnwVo[/youtube]

That's very creepy indeed.



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13 May 2013, 12:18 pm

OliveOilMom wrote:
appletheclown wrote:
I feel it demeaning because the only purpose would be sex. FWB is just something I'd rather not be a part of. Like I said, I would feel I was stealing from the other party, it wouldn't feel morally right. I have little chance at it so it might as well be through marriage, those are just my thoughts.


But whats wrong with the purpose just being sex? You said it wouldn't feel morally right, do you feel that way for religious reasons or for some other reason?

In my opinion there are two types of FWB relationships. There is the "booty call" type, where the two people don't ever really see each other except for sex. They don't talk on the phone or FB or hang out or anything, it's just for sex and only sex. The other type is two actual friends who like each other and enjoy each others company but while they don't have any romantic feelings for each other, they are physically attracted to each other and act on it.


Sex is a sacred bond, when man & woman become one in flesh and blood. I don't think it is only religious, I'd be feeling extremely guilty. In my view, sexual misdeeds on another are greater a crime than murder.


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13 May 2013, 12:22 pm

TheValk wrote:
I hold the view that sex is a privilege of the attractive (and the rich). Can FWB challenge this claim?


I don't see what that's got to do with anything. I wouldn't think a FWB relationship would have anything to do with money, so that leaves out the rich part. Of course some type of physical attraction would be required but then physical attraction is pretty much required for sex at all. I would imagine that most people can find someone that thinks they are attractive even if they aren't a Miss America or a Mr Universe. Being attractive isn't always about being textbook good looking. There are lots of different types of good looking,


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