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16 May 2013, 11:06 am

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I am not perfect. Clearly, as I never intended to insult anyone besides Boo, who takes it upon himself to get a bunch of people to go make fun of me. I don't have a dating life, or many prospects of having one. And I don't think highly of myself. If I insulted other people, then I am sorry.

I don't understand the logic of you thinking people on dating sites are desperate then if you aren't even in the dating game yourself

Why are they desperate?

It wasn't a well thought out insult.

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16 May 2013, 11:07 am

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He constantly annoys me, so I insult him, end of story. Not insulting all of WP (at least, not on purpose). It was a comment on meeting people on a dating site, which tend to be desperate people.

I'd like to compare your photo to those of some of the women on OKC in my city. About half of them are between 7-10/10. Desperate...lol. Somebody is definitely not tactful. That's for sure.

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16 May 2013, 11:09 am

Those might not be their actual pictures.

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16 May 2013, 11:15 am

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Those might not be their actual pictures.

maybe, not some of the ones I've met.

You have a lot of tact. Don't worry. You'll go far with it, especially in the work force.

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16 May 2013, 11:18 am

I get a chance to think about what I say before posting these messages. I am actually a lot more "psychotic" in real life. I'm working on it.

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16 May 2013, 11:49 am

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I get a chance to think about what I say before posting these messages. I am actually a lot more "psychotic" in real life. I'm working on it.

I don't think you're psychotic, as you seem, if anything, more in touch with reality than most people here. Tactless and theory-of-mind-less...possibly. But some people (especially guys) view this type of awkwardness as cute.

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16 May 2013, 12:29 pm

Dating online isn't always desperation. I'm an introvert, so that was the greatest decision I've ever made. I never would have been with anyone, and I would have not found the person I am currently (because he lived so far away) with someone who I couldn't imagine being without. I understand that you're not purposely trying to hurt others, aside from Boo, but that was pretty offensive, lol. I'm sure there are people dating in person that could be just as desperate as those dating online.

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16 May 2013, 12:36 pm

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Yes, what could be more desperate than having sex with a person who is so drunk they don't even know their own name, let alone have the capability of making a rational decision re whether they want sex with another person or not

Preying on drunk people is the epitome of desperation

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16 May 2013, 12:39 pm

Am I the only one who wasn't hurt?

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16 May 2013, 12:44 pm

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I know why I haven't posted in this subforum much. It's awkwardly cruel.

If you're an obese guy it's at least possible to bulk up on muscle and lose fat until you look like a football lineman with a bit of a gut rather than a blob. Hard work but maybe worth it. I think women can be attracted to the fat and strong look. You can try having a body like a jock even if you hate sports and are the biggest nerd.

Yeah, I've met ripped nerds before. Pretty cool. Furthermore, it's always possible to be as thin as you want just by regulating your food intake.

I think its harder than you think for people who have been fat before. Getting rid of all belly fat is really really hard once you've been fat at some point in your life. If you lower your food intake too much you lose muscle and still retain the pot belly which ends up looking even worse. I think its because the body goes into some kind of mammalian hibernation mode. It seems like some kind of vestigial evolutionary trait. You can do situps and core exercises and stuff to help improve your posture so your stomach doesn't stick out as much, but contrary to popular myth that won't get rid of the last layer of fat and make you look "ripped".

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16 May 2013, 12:52 pm

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Yeah, I've met ripped nerds before. Pretty cool. Furthermore, it's always possible to be as thin as you want just by regulating your food intake.

I wonder about this, too. If some of my fat is "loose skin." I'm like 13-15% bodyfat right now, so I have like, sorta a sixpack if it's the right angle, but I don't know if I'll ever get mega super ultra lean 5% bodyfat type thing.

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16 May 2013, 12:53 pm

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Or you can just not do it and not care. I'm more strong/athletic/low bodyfat than I think I've ever been in my life, and I'm also in general loneliest.

Body image issues solved does not equal having tons of friends/girlfriends.

EDIT. I pretty much am a jock and a nerd now. Seriously, I spent like 3 hours (not counting gardening) exercising today. And both nerds and jocks hate me now, because I don't fit clearly into either group. I had way more friends when I did nerdier crap and didn't have any athletic goals/aspirations. In my case, my athletic goals are basically nerdy as sh** and don't really consist too much of "GET RIPPED AND COOL LOOKING TO PICK UP CHICKS" but still.

Also I read giant six part articles like this:
http://www.sportivnypress.com/documents/SUB_51.html

Okay, I didn't try to imply image is the end all or that people should give up their interests and turn into a stupid boring jock to "pick up chicks". Its just that not being extremely obese certainly helps some. You don't have that problem so good for you. You can work on other things. You're only 22 for gods sake! I wasn't trying to make this thread even shallower and crueler than the OP already made it.

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16 May 2013, 1:06 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Am I the only one who wasn't hurt?

I doubt you are the only. I'm not really hurt, just trying to explain my point of view.

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16 May 2013, 1:07 pm

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Random, but true.

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16 May 2013, 1:11 pm

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Random, but true.

Why is it random?

It's directly linked to the concept of desperation, which was being discussed

I get the impression it's because I don't put all the steps in my thought process down
ie I assume some level of joined up thinking and don't want to patronise people

if people want me to dumb it right down though they've only got to say

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