my overly logical explanation of love-related depression

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I have a weird balance of getting very emotionally attached to select people and also having a very logical view of a lot of things. People have told me I should find out if I'm depressed - in the clinical sense - when I've been in an extreme funk over a relationship that didn't work out or loneliness in general. But it is my understanding that that kind of depression happens for no observable reason and that you're not happy about anything. I love my job, I love my friends, I love my activities, I love my cat, I hate being single. It's that simple. For me, being in a significant relationship is a life goal, and if I were upset about not getting a job or apartment or into a school or some other life goal I wanted, I think no one would suggest I was depressed. When I'm in a relationship that feels promising, I'm happy, because then my life goals are all in place. And when they're not, I'm feeling the disappointment you feel when your life is not where you want it to be.

I have great friends, but yeh, I feel your semi-pain about not having someone.

I want someone who *really, really* wants me, and yet respects my need for space. I'm beginning to think that love for me doesn't exist, and even if anything ever formed - I would have to tread on eggshells, and I would have to change who I fundamentally was in order to keep someone. So then, what would be the point? I know I overreact, and I come across as too intense - but it's who I am. I can't change who I am no matter how hard I try.