Men should start judging women's success too.

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Majro, yes, men need to empower themselves in the dating realm.
The average men, in the current state of dating market, are ...well.... very weak (and it's the fault of the men themselves) and at great disadvantage, not only they are expected to do the first move and face rejections after rejections but they are also expected to be economically well and overall having "interesting character" but they are increasingly being demanded by women to have good looks and good shapes hence why the increasingly use of gym and supplements.

While in return, all what men they demand from women is good looks and loyalty - so while men have to work their asses to meet women's demands, all what the women have to do to be competitive in the dating market is getting nice looks and loyalty (which the latter can so easily be adopted or faked), and getting nice looks isn't hard for most young girls nowadays, with all the make up, surgeries and hairstyle tricks is all fairly easier than becoming financially successful, independent, sociable, handsome, interesting and ...and .....and.... all this have unequally empowered women in the dating market by making them the nitpickers while men are the nitpickees.

These dynamics made the typical average man to keep asking out and getting rejected/flaked/friendzoned till he settles for the first woman who accepts him, whether this woman is quality or not is pure luck, while made the average women to pick the best choice of the suitors who ask her out based on more refined standards: Looks, character, personality and finance.


What's innovative in this article that, unlike what the whiny MRAs want to bring 'balance' back to dating by wishing women to go back to kitchen and standing against the river of progress , the author is asking men that it's time to increase their own value themselves in the dating market by putting demands other than sex and looks.

My adopted Mom(my Aunt),was a career woman.She had a small sausage company, and later managed a Dept. store.My Dad was also in business.They were married till death.He totally supported her.She would fly on business trips to Chicago and NY.What's amazing about this is that if she was alive she would be 113.She accomplished this back when women were mostly in the kitchen.Especially here in the South.She came from a rural background.Her family totally supported her in education.
I don't believe that she would have married a man who was not as accomplished as her.She worked hard to get where she did.Not only being a woman,but being a woman from a state that is considered backwards and ignorant.People up North would ask her if she wasn't ashamed to say she was from Arkansas.She always told them she was proud to be from here.

In some ways you would have more in common.
But if there are kids,then someone has to put their career on hold when they are little.If the woman makes more money, it would be better for the family that Dad stays home.
I guess the thing that really matters is that you love your partner,than money or career should not matter.Be with who makes you happy.

It's not like all men get to choose from a vast array of women and pick exactly what they want. Ditto women.

We all settle, even those of us who insist we don't - it's inevitable because nobody is perfect yet everyone secretly yearns for some sort of perfection, even when they know full well it's impossible. This whole thing is probably Disney's fault to be honest.

Women as a whole fail utterly when held to the same standards as men. I think it is kind of depressing.

I need a woman who can pay for my steroids and penis enlargement surgeries.

A man's loyalty is tested once he has everything. A woman's loyalty is tested once her man has nothing. Ambition varies to individuals at times. You can feel supreme about your future in your early 20s. Have everything planned out. But also, you could end up finding your dream job/career at 33, and it could have nothing to do with the career you chose in your 20s.
If I become a star, celebrity, millionaire. I would be extremely hesitant on dating a woman who is equal to my social class. Successful women can have egos bigger than professional athletes . They will compete with you. And I don't have time for that. I don't want a woman to compete with me. I want her to grow with me. I'd date a successful woman as long as she doesn't let the success replace her as a person. If I happened to spot a woman working as a cashier at a supermaket and she was down to earth, gave a damn about her life, had good priorities. I'd take her over a "successful" woman any day. Success is not always measured in money.

I'd get the "Double Check" women often in dating. Those are the ones who bring their checklist with them. Do you have a car? Where do you live? Where you see yourself in five years? What job you do? It's okay to ask some background questions, but some information is just none of your business. If the guy can take care of himself, that's all that matters. If he can take you out on occasional dates, that's all that matters. It was like applying for a job.