Been trying this OKcupid thing

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I'm not feelin' it. I talked to some girl and all I could think about was how uninterested I was in talking to her. I eventually stopped replying and she deleted her account.

And I think it's really dumb how girls can like my profile, but not send a simple message to get things going. I don't want to have to do that myself every time. Especially for something I have no motivation for. Maybe the whole homosexuality thing has some merits to it.

i'm confused: if you don't really want to be talking to people, then why are you trying to talk to people? did i miss something? i mean, if you're not actually interested in conversation (which is generally a large part of any human interaction) then why seek a date? wouldn't you have to talk to the person on the date? and how can you expect people to want to go on a date with you if you have no interest in conversing with them first?--that seems like an unrealistic expectation to me.

Maybe you could try to find a nice foreign girl who doesn't speak English. It worked in Love Actually.

Maybe one day someone who doesn't bore you to death will exchange pleasantries with you.

Most of the people on dating sites won't share your interests. Some of them will be genuine fruit cakes. Give it a chance

I think I was bored with the robotic way we were talking. I was asking most of the questions and she didn't seem to want to branch out the convo to other things. It was like strictly Q&A. It's not that conversations by definition are boring or uninteresting to me.

That's how it is with a lot of talk on the website. You're basically complete strangers who know nothing about each other aside from what's in your profiles/messages, so it can be tough to figure out what to talk about initially

^ yep, I find this hard in person too unless we have clear similar interests. I also worry alot about saying the wrong thing.

I found one girl I kind of connected with, but I'm not attracted to her(as far as I can tell) and she lives in the USA. None of the local girls really have any good profiles. I sometimes find girls who I have things in common with, but they seem to only be looking for dating. That puts too much pressure on me to be attracted to them. I can't really tell if there will be chemistry based on a few photographs and a short essay.

I've had minimal success with OkCupid myself. Got some "likes", and am getting close to meeting someone who was a mutual like (as friends). But often times those whom I'm interested in just don't respond or fail to keep the conversation going, despite what I perceive as common interests.

I think the thing is that these sites are geared toward the general population, and I think not an ideal way for Aspies to find other Aspie friends/dates. I've personally found more Aspie friends through tumblr,