Love for status > Love?

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I have a 34 years old lady friend who kept going lately about her very-soon-to-be fiancee being a "(lebanese) doctor working in London" and how a good catch he is - when our mutual friend mentioned yesterday in dinner that she's having a non-returned crush the soon-bride friend joked "so you're now in love but getting nowhere, while I am marrying soon yet not in love at all yet". (urgh, english translation made that way longer); the other (3rd) lady friend was like "be optimistic about this and rely on God" (instead of telling her this is so wrong).
When she hinted of wanting my opinion I have chosen to remain silent - so typical of me.

Note that she has rejected countless of guys before, she once told me she liked a guy a lot but rejected him nevertheless because he's a security guard.

So I was wondering, so love for status does exceed love for person in importance for some people, can a such economical marriage work eventually?

As with anything, it all depends on a person's priorities in life.

^ Well, maybe it's not wrong after all, I am glad I kept my mouth shut about it then. After all, I doubt my opinion would change anything, she's adult and it's her life.

Totally depends on the individuals involved. Everyone's criteria for a marriage partner is different. I know plenty of people who have married poor people with low status jobs as those things were not important to them. I also know plenty of people that would never date/marry someone poor with low status because that's not the type of person they're attracted to.

As for economical marriages working out.. they could. If he wants something she brings to the table (looks, personality, sex, child raising abilities.. whatever) and she wants to be associated with his status as a doctor and have his money to spend and both parties are perfectly clear on what their relationship arrangement is, well, it could work out just perfectly for both of them.

^ Well, I guess most marriages in the past were of that sort, it might turn out more successful than most love based marriages.

Agreed with previous posters. There is no black and white answer to this questions. For some couples it will work, not for others.