Emotional connection?

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This is a question for Aspie men. Do you feel an emotional connection to a woman that you say you love and are physically intimate with? I am asking this because I am trying to make sense of my undiagnosed Aspie boyfriends distance from me. When he's with me he's present and very loving; yet is content to go weeks without seeing me. When I ask when we will see each other again he will say 'soon honey'. Is it an out-of-sight out-of -mind thing? He says he loves being with me and that I'm awesome? Please help me understand where Aspie men are coming from in this matter. Thanks!

I do, but I am somewhat of an anomaly. when I was your BF's age I was totally the opposite of him, IOW very clingy, whereas now I am closer to his present behavioral state. wish I could tell you if it was just simple habit on his part, or something deeper.

He's 45.

reverse the digits and you get my age, plus or minus a few months.

I do get a emotional connection. I wonder though would you prefer him to contact you daily? most women call this clingy. I plan to try to go as long as possible without talking to a gf I get, seems better then the clingly name calling for showing love.

I can't really stand more then 5 days without talking to the one I love, its something I have to work on getting longer.

I'm not saying one should want to be around someone else "24/7"--but I would think that the person I love would want to see me at least once per day.

This every-two-week thing doesn't do it for me as far as "love" is concerned.

I'm glad the guy's a good lover.

As an aspie, I can't really identify with this problem.

Unless otherwise informed, I really prefer keeping in contact with my girlfriend on a daily basis. Talking constantly isn't mandatory, but I do at least want to know that she's safe.

I do prefer daily communication. My bf will only text (Aspie thing?). I've noticed many hate phones. We have almost daily communication. My problem is wondering how he can claim to 'love' me at such a distance? Perhaps it's something different in his mind?

To tell you the truth, I have strong feelings for people whom I haven't seen in years--weird, huh? LOL

When I do contact somebody whom I haven't seen in years, it seems like old times.

However, in a monogamous relationship, there has to be frequent contact. One partner has to rely on the other partner in time of need. I believe strongly in the "lovers-as-friends" concept.