Is it Verbal Abuse?

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No, seriously, leave the relationship. My first relationship was with someone who didn't even have the same career or academic interests as I had, but he came off as overly self-assured from the beginning. While he liked to put down whatever I was doing because "liberal arts are useless," he would read up on the same things I was studying just to engage in debates and belittle me (He was excellent at improvised debate but would only engage in conversations about certain things he wouldn't otherwise be interested in just to put me down because of my relative slowness to respond). While most of what I did supposedly embarrassed him, he'd participate in similar things only to degrade me and take jabs at my self esteem.

Supposedly he took the MCAT and was going to med school, but I see he has had the same job for the past five years.

Note that I am the one who was at one time formally diagnosed with bipolar disorder. He read up on schizoid personality disorder and Asperger's syndrome, asking me if I thought he had both. Frankly he struck me as sociopathic and just wanted an excuse to be an ass.

I'm sorry you have to deal with someone like this.

Yes, it sounds abusive. I don't think that he can use bipolar as excuse for that behaviour. I wouldn't stay in it.

Good thing it's a long distance relationship, would be afraid what it might be like if he was seeing you every day. What ever his problem is doesn't matter, he's being a real jerk and is, as others have said, toxic.

Best of luck.

Dump the as*hole. Sounds like he has a serious inferiority complex and he is using you to boost his ego by putting you down.