A crush messaged all of sudden at late night.

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A (Local this time, not foreigner) woman whom was my big crush (before my 2-years ex relationship) messaged me all of a sudden but I have never tried to open up with her since she's taller than me (usually it's pointless to even try in this case), asking me how I have been, and not only with some mundane talk but she opened life and love topics with me.

Don't panic Boo, what's going on?...

Maybe she digs you.....

Prank call or wrong number

We chatted for like 3 hours.

That’s too good to be true, eh?

It is the first time this sort of thing happens, maybe she just wants a friend but a crush usually is someone who barely acknowledge your existence, there is a glitch in the Matrix.


Also can you fix the title to “messages” or “messaged” me?

Done

a late night of checking the backup men options ?

So do you agree with this video?

Do you have a backup man , traven?

Go slow, Boo. Unless she also regards you as a crush, you likely feel more attracted to her than she does to you ... I mean your feelings about her are more intense, since you already view her as a crush.

But it does sound like this could be a good thing. Try to ignore the jaded advice such as "she reviewed her backup man options." Just be open towards it without entirely capitulating right away.

The intentions for starting something can be all over the place; what's important is how it develops.

I've pursued guys with very shallow and short sighted intentions and it ended up becoming much more.

Good luck

Yeah....I woke up the next morning and I was thinking like "This is too good to be true boy, be realistic", she looks like a model , she is likable by everyone and her ex was very handsome - at her same level looks-wise. She's also the over friendly type with everyone.

So....yup, let's be real, it can't be.


On the other hand, the chat yesterday lasted from 10:01 PM till 2:30 AM non stop, which.....is usually something women DON'T do with mere friendzoned dudes, and she said stuff like:

"You're strong, I admire this" during the conversation.


But again, these are probably wishful ideas.

I'd say go for it. I felt like my girlfriend was too good to be true when she first asked ME out. A girl isn't going to talk to you for three hours consecutively or go somewhere alone with you if she just wants to be friends. Remember that someone has loved you before, so someone can love you again.

I've had more than a few girls talk to me online for long periods of time who made it very plainly obvious I was in the friend-zone with them. But I guess it's possible they were playing hard-to-get but if that was the case it is NO WONDER AT ALL as to why I'm much better off with an Aspie girlfriend than an NT one & why even lots of NT guys talk & complain about how they don't understand women.

video says 50/50, i picked for explaining the backup idea,
no, i never went back to an ex in any way
i wouldn't want to change any routine in this time of life
& i'm not the nt women, who are just as much a mystery to me
i have no jewelry or fancy stuff for me,
(oh i got me some land)

but anyone calling in the night and disrespecting you have a job
and i see drama for manipulation

This crush woman is not my ex.

And....she has a job too, the conversation just got long.

I definitely think that the 3 hour-long phone call can be a good sign, but it could mean many different things depending on who she is as a person.
Example: if you know her to be really nice and kind - someone who would never hurt a fly, then I would say it's more likely that she is interested in you. BUT if you know her to be someone who shows signs of needing a lot of attention (posting provocative pictures on social media, talking to multiple guys at once etc) then I'd say she might be interested but there's also a very good chance that she'll break your heart into a million pieces, so you have to be careful.
You know her better than we do. Look at who you know her to be and try to judge the 3 hour phone call in relation to that.

Women do this when they need someone to talk to, someone who is willing to be there for 3 hours to take their mind off of another guy.

I did this too

As long as you don't know her intentions, don't get your hopes up!