The reality of getting a gf

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I'm sorry I made you feel bad. I'm sure your fiancée doesn't see you as a downgrade.

And yes you are really smart, not just anyone could do medical research.

I don't mean opposite sex me exactly; a girl equal in me in attractiveness, success, etc.

If I am a 5/10, I date girls who are no more than 5/10. I don't date girls richer or more successful than me, only equal or 'lesser' but I use that loosely because no one is truly 'lesser'.

If I was 20 and didn't have a job and wasn't studying and still lived with my parents, it would be unrealistic of me to try dating girls who live alone, study and have jobs. Etc.

I am open about my options.

I have asked out and tried dating girls of any height, weight, race, straight or bisexual, asexual, slightly underweight to slightly overweight on the weight spectrum, any body type, any mental disorders or disabilities, any interests or personality.

In senior year of high school I crushed on a tall, blonde confident girl, a short, frumpy redhead nerdy girl with Aspergers who liked history, art and 'diseases', a short, skinny half black tomboy girl with a very similar personality and family life as me, a white, slightly overweight girl with dirty blonde hair who was a bit of a 'country girl', had farm owning family, both her parents were so messed up she was in foster care, a tall white brunette girl with a confident and independent yet childishly silly and playful personality who liked pokemon, anime, gaming, a girl with many mental disorders including learning difficulties who had a rough and traumatic past, was religious, slightly sporty, etc.

I've also crushed on shy Asian girls, confident ones, sporty confident white girls, shy withdrawn white and black girls, goth/metalhead types, a slightly overweight butch tomboy black girl in foster care, etc.

All of them were conventionally a 5/10 or 'average' looking but they were all 10's to me when I was attracted to them.

And still would...

As I said, being friends with completely different types of males and females my whole life hasn't helped me figure out what kind of people I truly fit-in or click with.

I've been friends with laidback stereotypical stoners, stereotypical nerd/geeks, gamers, stereotypical Aussie equivalent of jock/frat bro males, and much more.

@RetroGamer:

You're right, unfortunately.

Statistics show there are more overweight women than men, and in the 13-25 range more boys and young men get more physical exercise than young women. This was Australian research. Google MakeYourMove.com, the campaign for young girls and women to get more exercise and sports activity as they do get it less than males.

The obesity rate is on the rise in Australia across all race/gender/etc.

The more fat people there are, the more competition there is for thin people.

Even among the youth this is becoming a problem.

I guess I'll just have to resort to being one of those guys who ends up dating a fat girl, the one's who don't even try to lose weight, despite the fact this is the body I'm working towards:

I just feel like people are thinking it when they look at us together.

Also if you feel people judge you for liking skinny girls than don't go and do the same to others.

Outrider your 18. But you sound like your 35 I mean that as both a compliment and criticism. Your mature and all but I can't help but feel you have a pessimistic outlook that simply isn't the case.

Yes

But despite all my goodpoints it still makes me a downgrade, no matter how smart, friendly, quirky, funny, nice or pretty I am, I'm still a "downgrade"

Go ahead. Say it. There's no need for you to be ashamed.

Sometimes, "big" women can be really good in bed. Because they know what they want.

Sometimes, "big" women can be really good in bed.  Because they know what they want.

Food.

Sausage?

i won't be fully happy and satisfied until i go on enough dates with a girl and she officially ends up becoming my girlfriend.