okcupid question
Jacoby
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Well, if that was the case I should have had 25+ girlfriends. I had a match that was 98% and to say it was a waste of time trying to communicate with her would be an understatement: to make a long story short, I obviously didn't have a good enough career for princess. I would imagine my wife would have been around 80% or less as we have few common interests, she is significantly older and wouldn't have answered the 'adult' questions in any way yet we have an outstanding relationship that is the envy of many. In fact, she wasn't even one of my 150+ eHarmony matches over the years and was a 'flex' match I ignored at first. In short, love isn't a mathematical formula!
I would go so far as to say EVERYONE on OKCupid I met or corresponded with was a waste of time. Since it was a free site, I doubt anyone I talked to took it or relationships the least bit seriously. Apparently it's only gotten worse as the years have gone on.
You should watch "Married at First Sight". Those couples match completely on paper by experts so they are married - very few stay married due to lack of chemistry. One woman stayed married after her new husband's looks really upset her and it was because he had a great personality. They ended up renewing their vows again. That was sweet.
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Darn, I flunked.
For me it's always been the incompatibility % (was it called % enemy?) that mattered most, anyone above let's say 65% match was pretty much compatible but anybody over 20% disagreement was a definite no (tried and tested). My current boyfriend was I think 94% match and below 10% incompatible.
I actually thought of that show when I read this topic. I watched it last year with my then Fiancee and I predicted that 2 or the 3 would fail. I was wrong: it was all 3. One woman never even gave her husband a chance and had the personality of dried toast. In short, this further proves that there is no formula for love.
I apparently forgot to mention we got 0% enemy.
I would go so far as to say EVERYONE on OKCupid I met or corresponded with was a waste of time. Since it was a free site, I doubt anyone I talked to took it or relationships the least bit seriously. Apparently it's only gotten worse as the years have gone on.
That's very neat. If I may ask, how much older is your wife? And did her age bother you when you first met her? Do you think it will bother you later on?
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Your neurodiverse (Aspie) score: 83 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 153 of 200 You are very likely neurotypical
Darn, I flunked.
I actually thought of that show when I read this topic. I watched it last year with my then Fiancee and I predicted that 2 or the 3 would fail. I was wrong: it was all 3. One woman never even gave her husband a chance and had the personality of dried toast. In short, this further proves that there is no formula for love.
Ok, I think you're talking about the nursing student with the black hair and she was paired with the red haired guy with the beard. Problem with that match was that he was totally attracted to her but she wasn't to him and he kept saying she wasn't trying. You have to have some attraction or it won't work. It might have worked with me because he did have a pretty good personality and I have to have someone with a good personality. You are right about her - she hardly even cracked a smile. He must have only cared for looks.
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I'm happiness challenged.
Your neurodiverse (Aspie) score: 83 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 153 of 200 You are very likely neurotypical
Darn, I flunked.
She is about 6 years older than me. Yes, her age did bother me a bit, mostly because I was relatively inexperienced and knew that 40 is getting too old for a child. When she first introduced herself to me, I thought she was just a friendly, beautiful college student that remembered me from my college days as she looked about 25. My biggest concern was that we would lose a child due to her age and while we did lose one already, it was likely not because of that. I am okay with it because she has taken great care of herself and my late Grandfather was 5 years younger than my (living) Grandmother. That, and my experience of dating anyone my age of younger was frustrating to put it mildly. I don't throw around subjective terms like soulmate often but yes, she is my soulmate.
As for that nursing student on the show (Ashley was her name), she reminds me of about half the women I dated: no personality, very self-centered and just looking for an excuse to blame you for everything as they made up their mind within seconds. In short: they are single for a reason.
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