Female needs help on dates!

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I'm a lot older and still having some of the same problems- I have no idea what flirting is until it's over (and usually someone else tells me I was doing it). Eye contact with new anyone, forget it. I have noticed also in NT, well, acquaintances, won't say friends, that girls consciously learn how to manipulate guys in subtle ways (OK guys do it to girls too but it seems more benign because it's usually pretty transparent if you aren't dumb as a rock)- but I rank that among things I'd rather die alone than have to do. In other words, I'd liek to do some things better but I don't really ever want to be "smooth."

Aaanyway, one thing I can tell you is don't be afraid of a little silence. You dont have to fill the gaps, and it doesn't have to be awkward. It seems hard at first but you can decide at least you're not going to feel awkward, and the other person can sense that and will be more at ease, too. It will also give the guy a chance to steer the conversation a little, and bring up things he likes.

I think what the problem is that you havent found a guy whos interested in more than just sex. Once you find a guy who wants an actual relationship I think you should be fine